Im WAY over that other guy... he's a sleeze and has admitted to only using me but he said he just wanted to see my tits :mad: and he wanted my best friend for a little while there... anyhow... I think I'm starting to like one of my other ex's... I have been out with him twice before and broke up with him both times for reasons... and after the second time other happened with him along with me breaking up with him and he got suicidal... I told myself and I'm pretty sure he did the same that I'm not going there again cause I don't want to ever hurt him again... but I'm starting to get feelings for him again... we always flirt and muck around and lots of people crack jokes like"why dont you too get a room" or "just hurry up and root already" cause accrding to them we can keep our hands of each other :o... so what I'm really asking is... do I let him know how I feel or just try and move on... holidays are coming up and we are planning to meet up with our group of friends and maybe just us 2... I'm confused on whether I should go there again or not and I don't think he'll give me a third chance anyway :( I'm so confused about all this... :confused:

Cherri,

I don't mean to hurt your feelings here, but you sound pretty young. It seems to me like you just want to be with somebody so your looking around to who you can have. Your ex will get hurt again if you try to get back with him. You need to remember why you broke up in the first place, and remember that he is unstable if he was talking about suicide. That is not a good relationship to be in. You may be feeling attracted to him, but sometimes we make more of the attraction than what is really there. He seems like he is a good friend, and you two obviously enjoy each others company, but that does not mean you should be in a relationship with each other.

In my opinion, you should work on being single and just being friends with guys. You seem a little confused about relationships and your feelings... so now would be a good time to think about yourself and figure out what you want in a relationship. If all you want is someone to call your own... well that tells me you just want the attention, you want to feel wanted and loved. I have been there many times myself.

Take some time to think about who you are, and try to be happy with being single. I know how it feels to just want someone special in your life, but you will never be able to find the right person if never give yourself time to figure out what you want.

BTW, How old are you?

Best of Luck!

I am 14 and I do know why I broke up with him.. because my friend that died told me he was jealous of me and this guy the week before he died.. so it just didn't feel right... I think it may be true that I want to feel loved but I feel like... kind of like there is and has been something there for a long time... see I have changed a lot in appearance and other stuff and he is the only guy that liked me then and now... all the others only started liking me when I got "hot"... like I had to change for them to notice me and like me but for him he always noticed me... and I do have a lot of fun when I'm around him and I can't stand it when he's mad with me or upset... I do admit I love the attention he gives me he makes me feel special and he has always made me feel that way... but I don't want to hurt him again so maybe I'm best just to try and move on and think things over thanks for the advice

[QUOTE=cherri_blossom66]I broke up with him.. because my friend that died told me he was jealous of me and this guy the week before he died.. so it just didn't feel right... /QUOTE]


Ok so your friend that died was jealous of you and this other guy? Was there anything between you and the friend that died? Did you feel guilty, and if you did... why?

I know when people die sometimes you feel guilty.. for whatever reasons, but most of them are out of your control. I don't understand why your friend said he was jealous before he died... but it should not have been a reason for you to break up with your boyfriend. Maybe there is more to it all that I don't see... :confused:

I still stand by my original thought to just stay friends with this guy. He is probably wanting to be with you again too. Take the time to be friends... if things are good as they are, there is no reason to rush for more... right? Plus its better to be friends and grow more with each other rather than rushing into something that might ruin everything... :o

I am happy for you being able to 'blossom' and feeling more attractive to other guys. I remember going through all that... hah. All the new attention may get over whelming, just keep the good head you have and don't let those boys take advantage of you. You mentioned the other boy just wanting to see your tits... I sure hope this does not indicate what you have done, or may do at such a young age.:( Boys that like that are the ones you need to stay away from... Ok well I don't want to sound like a mother.. so just use your best judgement, your doing fine!;)

Take Care

That other guy broke up with me cause I Wouldn't show him my tits and has gone around telling all his friends that I am a fridget but cause we have muteral friends they all tell me these things... I don't care what he calles me cause I'm 14 I'm allowed to be fridget... well that's the way I see it...

The boy that died me and him and been of and on since the beginning of last year but then I got to know this other guy and the boy that died and me both seemed to lose a fair bit of interest that way but we still remained good friends then the day I asked this guy out my friend told me he was jealous and that was the frieday before he committed suicide :( but I was told it had nothing to with me... I still feel really terrible though...

I have besided that I just want to stay friends with this guy for now cause we both have heaps of fun just flirting and mucking around together and if anything is going to happen between us it can just not now cause I love being such good friends with him... I think I will ask my friends not to make the stupid comments about us "getting a room" cause that just ruins the fun lol...
But as you said I don't want to rush into things and ruin what we have a as a friendship... thanks heaps you advice has helped me clear my head :)

Well the guy figured out I like him... and he figured out the reasons I don't want to date him again 9his words are I'm scared to cause of what he did last time) I just don't want to hurt him... yeah and turns out he likes me too and was thinking about asking me out... he told all this to my bestie... but it gets me that the day before him and my bestie were all over each other... she was sitting on his lap while I was sitting next to him and he touched her butt chest etc... while I was sitting right there then the next day he tells her he's been thinking about asking me out again... I'm just a bit weirded out about that... yeah anyway he hugged me and we are planning to meet up in the holidays with our group of friends so yeah...
Oh and the guy that 'just wanted me to see my tits' turns out it was all just a big misunderstanding... he heard bad things that I apparently said I heard bad things that he apparently said they were mostly rumours so we are friends again and that's good we are also catching up in the hollies with 2 other friends so yeah...

I have told my bestie to tell the other guy trhat I like that I like him but I'm just not sure about the whole sich atm so yeah hopefully he'll underdstand... I think he will... well anyway catch you

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Originally Posted by cherri_blossom66

Im WAY over that other guy... he's a sleeze and has admitted to only using me but he said he just wanted to see my tits :mad: and he wanted my best friend for a little while there... anyhow... i think im starting to like one of my other ex's... i have been out with him twice before and broke up with him both times for reasons... and after the second time other happened with him along with me breaking up with him and he got suicidal... i told my self and im pretty sure he did the same that im not going there again cause i dont wanna ever hurt him again... but im starting to get feelings for him again... we always flirt and muck around and lots of people crack jokes like"why dont you too get a room" or "just hurry up and root already" cause accrding to them we can keep our hands of each other :o... so what im really asking is... do i let him knwo how i feel or just try and move on... holidays are coming up and we are planning to meet up with our group of friends and maybe just us 2... im confused on whether i should go there again or not and i dont think he'll give me a third chance anyway :( im so confused about all this... :confused:

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Just give it a try. If you guys are still flirting wit each other then just go for it and ask them.

Since your too young to understand focusing on school, I will tell you to focus on the kind of guy your looking for. It sounds like you are eager to just take anyone that comes along for the moment. If you already have plans on breaking up with suicidal boy then why go out with him in the first place?