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  • Dec 7, 2006, 06:52 PM
    lovelost
    In love with my best friend
    I'm in love with my best friend, I've had feeling for him for 2 years now, and he found out about one month ago, he told my friends that he loved me but not in that way, he said we had gotten TOO close for him to feel anything for me. So I thought he would feel awkward but he didn't, we are still friends, now the problem is that he recently started dating someone, and always want to talk about it, he tells me he really likes her, and other things about girls, BUT WHY DOES HE DO THIS TOO ME IF HE KNOWS HOW I FEEL ABOUT HIM? Why do you guys think he does this? Is he trying to make me jealous? I mean because if he really cares about me like he says he does than he shouldn't be saying anything about other girls, he knows that hurts me! So please tell mee what to do, should I stop talking to him? Or act like nothing? I neeed advice pleaseeeeeee!
  • Dec 7, 2006, 07:05 PM
    ashlynbaby101
    OK well you should tell him how you feel about him.. if it doesn`t work out with him and his girlfriend YOU should ask him out I mean... whats the point of not telling a boy that you like him? See... I really like this boy and I asked him out he said no but... I still like him... hehe... good luck! :)
  • Dec 7, 2006, 07:15 PM
    s_cianci
    When he brings up the subject, just simply say "I'm sorry, but I'd rather not talk about that right now." Inform him that you're not comfortable discussing that topic.
  • Dec 7, 2006, 07:49 PM
    jrussole
    The best mates are your best friend first.
  • Dec 8, 2006, 05:03 AM
    talaniman
    Its so hard to be friends when there is a romantic attraction, so you may have to back off this friendship until you both can handle it better. You should be honest with him how you feel and have to leave him alone until it sinks in.
  • Dec 8, 2006, 05:13 AM
    s2tp
    I don't think he is trying to make you jealous. He is probably trying to keep the friendship like it was. He doesn't want it to change, even though your feelings have come out. He wants you to still be that friend he can talk to.
    Unless you say something to him, he will continue to talk about other girls. You should step up and let him know that as much as you care for him and don't want to lose the friendship, you have too many feelings to sit around and listen to him talk about another girl when you want to be that girl. He can either stop talking about her and still be friends, or maybe it will be best for you to not hang out with him so much. You obviously like him in a more than friends way, and he knows.. but he just doesn't feel the same way... it just happens.

    Can you see yourself being friends with him if he stops talking about other girls and relationships? Or will you always be hoping that someday he will see you in a different light and give you a chance? Either way he should respect that you have feelings too, and that you can't just stand by and just be his friend while he talks about other girls... let him know where you stand in this friendship.

    Best of luck
  • Feb 2, 2008, 03:24 AM
    gillian28
    I don't mean to be rude but I think he's doing that because he wants you to realize that he likes somebody else... on the contrary, probably he wants you to get jealous... good luck!cheer up!
  • Feb 2, 2008, 06:50 AM
    terellowens
    I went out with my Best Friend :P and no we haven't spoken in 2 years don't make the same mistake! Better to be friends than enemies

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