When I first became sexually active I lacked stamina, much as most young males experience. Since then nothing had really changed. I often felt inadequate in bed because of the inability to have a prolonged sexual experience but found ways to compensate for my partner's sake. I never felt like I had a poor sex life or that there was any reason for concern.
I spent nearly the last five years sexually inactive after my most recent serious relationship for my own reasons, most were emotional and probably linked to my ex. Others reasons were those feelings of inadequacy that made me feel like I would be a disappointing sexual partner.
I recently started seeing someone on a relatively serious capacity and have become sexually active again. What once was a 'problem' of being quick in the sack is now a 'problem' of not being able to climax at all.
I'm perfectly capable of climaxing on my own in no time at all. But when it comes to climaxing with this girl it seems impossible. This is troubling because I don't want her to think that she's doing anything wrong or that she's unattractive at all. She does everything right and she is gorgeous.
My theory is that it's psychological and I've put all this pressure on myself to be a 'superman' in bed, and now I can't have a complete sexual experience. I've always been very conscious about the other's experience before my own, and now it's come to a point to where my own is becoming more important.
Is this an issue I should seek medical guidance over or should I ride it out and see if this really is simply a psychological brick wall that needs a little time to be chipped away at.