My girlfriend wants to split, but still loves me and wants to continue contact?
My girlfriend and I have been together for over 5 years. We have not lived together yet. Recently, she has had these feelings that she wants to be independent from me. Several times now she has moved on those feelings, asking/telling me that she wants to go on a break. Each time she did that, however, she would call the very next day and apologize and ask me to forgive her.
In response to her recent thoughts, I have given her as much space as possible. We only see each other every other weekend, and I have left her on her own to take care of herself (wellness/finances/etc), yet we still talk everyday.
Finally, last night, she went through the same scenario as before, telling me that she wants to take a break. Even though she wants to split, she told me that she still loves me and she still wants to talk to me daily.
I told her that I would not be willing to do that, and by leaving me, I will stop all communications. I felt it was unfair to me to still be in contact with her if we did go through this split.
We ended the conversation with her in tears, she saying she loves me, but that she needs the break.
I am upset (obviously because she feels this way), but what makes it even worse is that this decision comes at a point in my life where everything seems to be converging together in a negative light. I recently was laid off from my job of 6 years, most of my friends have moved away (for school/work), my bills seem to be overflowing, and my grandmother is currently in the hospital. She was the only positive thing I could turn to, yet now I have shut her out.
My questions are:
1. What is going through her head?
2. It is wrong to make an attempt to get her back so soon? Or should I let her go in the hopes that she will return?
Thanks!