Originally Posted by ScottGem
She can't do that at least not without consequences to her. Once she accepts the position of executor she is bound by a fiduciary responsibility to act with the best interests of the estate and its beneficiaries in mind. She will have to account for any monies paid out of the estate. She can be sued for malfeasance, prosecuted for embezzlement, etc. if she spends money lile that.
Probate courts are local, generally a will is probated in the county where the deceased passed away. You need to ask the attorney point blank; "In what district court was the will submitted for probate?" You then go to that court to find the status. If he refuses to tell you, tell him you will report him to the local Bar association. As a beneficiary of the will you are entitled to this information.
You are aslo entitled to request, from the executor, an accounting of the assets of the estate and what expenditures have been made on behalf of the estate.