Hi I've just found out that the bloke I'm seeing has got viagra. Not only that when we make love some times he doesn't masterbate me but I always do him,and he just rams it in? He also doesn't play wiv me or caress my body or does oral sex?just plays wiv my boobs! Also he makes sure that I climax then he pulls me off and starts to masterbate or I help him get him to climax? He also thought that I wasn't on the pill and that was his answer to pulling out.he also say about putting me in suspenders and stockings and that he wants us to something sexy like naked in heals... but that never happens!but don't get me wrong he turns me on and I've only found out recently that he takes viagra so I don't know if he has a problem in the past or if he just doesn't fancy me?? I'm 13yrs younger than him,I've nice slim figure ,quite busty,look after my appearance so why does he do this? I've been seeing him for 4 months what do I do? Please help me understand?

We would have no idea why he does this. We don't know him.
I would suggest you stay out of the sack with him and talk to him. Tell him what you do not like and makes you feel uneasy.
If you can't talk to someone you're having sex with, having sex is probably not something you ought to be doing with him.
How old are the both of you?

I second the age question.

He most likely takes viagra so he can have sex, many men have perforance issues. So have you asked him why? This also means sex has to be planned because he has to take it a few hours before.

Next you merely say no next time , explain that you have desires to and if he does not share and do some things you like, it is easy he don't get what he wants.

So go get the sexy heels if that is what you want also. He sounds like he is telling you something he wants, are you doing anything to bring it?

Often with viagra the man will just keep on going and going and it is hard just to get off, He could go a hour perhaps before getting off. So finishing with masturbation is also not uncommon

Thanks I'm 35 he's 50! It just seems he must have been a player when he was younger or still is.hes good looking for his age and has the chat. But also he tells me he looks at my picture during the week and wanks himself off! It concerns me more as I only see him at week ends as I live quite a distance away. Plus he doesn't know that I've found out he takes viagra?

Well I'll let the experts handle this one.
I don't understand why he's pulling out and masturbating. That sounds weird to me. I would imagine that would get to be pretty annoying after a while
50 is not old but if he's taking Viagra he must have some problems.

Thanks that's what I thought but it just hurts as I feel he doesn't fancy me? Or that he thinks he ill catch something or get me pregnant?

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Originally Posted by chester2010

thanx that's what i thought but it just hurts as i feel he doesn't fancy me? or that he thinks he ill catch something or get me pregnant?

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He is not a child, he knows how babies are made.
He could just be having some sexual difficulties and is not wanting to tell you about it. Maybe he is embarrassed.
There is a big age difference he may be worried about and he doesn't know you well enough, you guys have not been together long enough for him to open up and tell you what's going on.
You can open the line of communication by letting him know you've got a problem with this. Then maybe he'll talk.

Let me second the concept that if you can't talk about sex you shouldn't be having it. 4 months is barely long enough to know what color his eyes are, much less his sexual preferences and problems. I really think you guys need to do more getting to know and less getting off.

He's 50 year old. He's a big boy now. He's old enough to have a mature discussion about sex (and so are you).

Go out for dinner, somewhere private, and talk to him about it. If you can't begin the process of learning to communicate with each other at this early stage of your relationship, then there ain't much hope.

This is more about understanding and communicating with each other than it is about sex.

We can't tell you why he does what he does - but he might be able to.

Thanxs for all your thoughts and advise. I understand what you are saying and it took him 2months to tell me his real age! I think maybe he talks a good sexual fantasy but can't fulfill it?

It frightens me that his solution to the big Birth Control question is Pulling Out. He should know better.

I wouldn't take it as a slight against that he doesn't want to inside you. It could be the Viagra working that is preventing him from getting off. It could be that the sensations of vaginal intercourse are right.

It also doesn't surprise me that he wanks during the week. (A note of Caution: Pictures, racy or otherwise, sent over the internet tend to find themselves on the internet. If you're not prepared to share your body with the internet keep tabs on the photos you send him.) A man knows his body well, he knows how to get himself off. He could be too used to that.

Something to try. Convince him not to wank the entire week. Tease him and get him to play with you. Get into his mind and drive him crazy with lust/passion. Make sure you get off before and then see how long he lasts.

Best of luck!