Hi I've been going out with my boyfriend for about 5 months now... and he told me he gets really uncomfortable when I try to touch him down there... he has no problem touching me, but I'm his first girlfriend, and basically his first everything. Lol But I want to know if any guys have had this problem the first time? He says he can't explain it... it's like a mental block lol. But I just want to get things to be not as confusing lol. He's also shy if that helps...

What age are you both? Is it pain he feels or just uncomfortable at your touch?

Yeah it depends on your age, if your both teens, then its to be expected and will change with time as hormones develop furthur. But if your are older then maybe he has had a bad expirienced or been abused sexually as a child and every time you try gets upset and feels uncomfortable.

I'm 17 and he's 16... He's just uncomfortable... he let me do it once but it was before he told me he was uncomfotable.

Well I think you should talkt o him about it and find out the reason he is uncomfortable with it, maybe he just feels like the relationship is going too fast, don't worry, the sexual side of a relationship is a very small part and should be such a big deal

Ya we've already talked about it... he just said it's a mental block... like what you said with hormones. I guess that could be it? Lol But he has no problem doing anything to me, but I am a year older so that could be it too. I trust him completely and thank you so much for clearing things up for me...

Could it be that he has a conscience about his sexual response. He knows that he will get you pregnant and have no desire to be daddy right now... for, according to you, he has no problem thrilling you... another thing much more important - there are other things that the both of you can be doing beside sex... get a life children.. sex comes when you are ready.. I mean truly ready, so, right now is just not the time, so, consider his actions a blessing and move on to other more thrilling legal and moral and ethical behavior that the both of you can enjoy.

Um were not having sex thank you very much... were both waiting for marriage. I was talking about other things.

Girls are known to mature faster than boys, you may be ready but he clearly is not. Back off and allow things to go at their own pace.

You that's what I'm going to do. Thank you for helping me.

Sorry Luna, had to spread the love.

He could be uncomfortable because he may know what the "touching" may lead to. As you said, you both are waiting for marriage.

I also agree with Blue. Time to back off... things will happen when the time is right.

He and I both know that we won't go that far... but thanks for helping me.