How can I get my 52 year old husband to check out his labido situation? Wondering if his t's are low... really low... we have not had sex in 5 months... I am only 49 with a high sex drive... what can we do.. but he not only can't get it up... he tries NOTHING.. its like the entire drive for sex in gone... so frustrated in Texas

Have you discussed it at all? Have you asked him how he is? Does he have any health problems, worries, depression? Is he his normal self in other ways? Did the sex suddenly stop or has it gradually petered out?

He's 52. Not that 52 year old men can't have healthy sex lives, but age does play a big part.

It's time for him to discuss this with a doctor, find out if there are any health issues that are causing this, then go from there.

As we age, sex slows down, the need for sex isn't as great as when we were in our 20's. It's a fact of life, but there are things that we can do to keep the sex in our relationship.

Doctor first. He really does need to find out if this is a physical problem.

50 is the new 40 guys!

I don't know, some of you 'young things' seem to think that the male libido takes a downward plunge as soon as guys hit 50 (sorry Alty).

Age doesn't have to play a big part (not at 50 which is still young more perhaps at 60 or 70!) - it's more to do with health, fitness and attitude than to do with age.

Sure, some guys have low testosterone and this affects the libido - but most often there are underlying health problems or relationship issues. The desire to have sex should still be there, even if the sex isn't as frequent.

For the sex to have stopped completely seems strange (do you know if he still gets morning erections or masturbates?) Perhaps he feels paralyzed because his sexual desire doesn't match yours, and so he does nothing...

I agree with the other posters - visit your doctor (make the appointment for him), get some tests done, talk and start the process of sorting it out.