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  • Apr 28, 2010, 10:35 AM
    seven10
    Relationship uncertainty
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    I've been dating someone officially,in my school for about almost 4 months but we've been known as a couple to our school for 7 months. He's my shortest relationship so far but I have grown up with this guy and I've let him in more than I could have ever imagined. I'm just uncertaint about our relationship lately. Lately there's been so much drama and its overwhelming me since people in my school don't like us together. So I decided that I wanted to have a talk with him. The whole month had gone pretty bad with all this and he seen me cry once again. (which I was not happy about) and then for some reason he said he doesn't think I am happy with him anymore. We talked about breaking up and I told him he shouldn't leave saying he loved me and cared about our relationship because that wouldn't be good for me and it wouldn't make sense.so we decided to "work things out and forget about everything". Its only been a few days since this convorsation,but now, I don't know its just not the same. We see each other all the time and even have class together but now when we kiss I don't feel anything from it anymore and I feel like its whatever to him.he's not the type of guy to show emotion at all and is the JOKER type. Which sometimes leave me unsure of what actions I should use as clues to whether our relationship is going downhill or it needs time.im unsure if I want to have another talk with him because I don't want to make things worse and also I don't know whether this is me overthinking or not. What should I do?

    Lately we haven't been at our best, in my opinion. Since we see each other all the time its getting sort of played out since we never try something new. We are in school till almost 8pm lately so we don't have time to do things after school. I was wondering if anyone has suggestions on things we can do that my make us re-connect and make everything feel like it did when we first started.
  • Apr 28, 2010, 10:51 AM
    Wondergirl

    You're overthinking the whole thing. Guys often don't show emotion; it's we women who civilize them by rounding off their sharp corners. It's been only four months. Don't push and pull. Stop the drama. Just enjoy him and the relationship as you get to know each other in ways you didn't before.
  • Apr 28, 2010, 11:00 AM
    seven10

    Thanks
  • Apr 29, 2010, 08:09 AM
    talaniman

    I was curious why the opinions of others makes such a big impact on you, and what drama does that cause, as clearly something is going on more than what you have written. What is it, besides being in a rut? Maybe you need to do other things beside just being in school, and why don't you use the weekends to have fun?
  • Apr 29, 2010, 07:34 PM
    seven10

    I'm just the type of person that likes to be comforted. If I hear rumors or drama from girls or guys and CLEARLY he is aware of them. I would like him to step up and be like you know that that's not true &forget them, I'm yours. But since he doesn't drama does somewhat have a effect on me; it honestly makes me overwhelmed.

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