At first I din't like his friend he was getting between us because they where always thogether. But more resently he has been hanging whit both goint to take a walk or things like that and I been felling weird lateley or think I am startind to like him. I am telling you that I like him because I just can't stop thinking about him. I fill the need to be whit him, and at the same time I fill guilty because my huddy is really nice to me and he is great guy. What should I do can you tell me an advice?

You are starting to like him or you feel a sexual or emotional attraction to him?

Well I really don't know is only that I think about him all day night . I feel that I need to kiss him or hug him.

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Originally Posted by maite21

well i realy don't know is only that i think about him all day night . I feel that i need to kiss him or hug him.

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You think about him all day long and want to kiss and/or hug him and don't know if this is a potential friendship or a potential romantic/sexual relationship?

Sorry - fantasy is one thing. Emotional cheating is another.

If you want to be with this friend, have a "shot" at this friend, tell your husband and leave the marriage.

If this is simply fantasy and doesn't threaten your marriage, do nothing.

If you think it can turn into something, leave this guy alone - unless you want to end the marriage.

This is a good rule - how would you feel if your husband would post this
Interest in one of your friends?

Only you know.

I think that you need to focus on your marriage.

Allow your hubby to hang out with his best friend and you hang out with your girl friends. Encourage your hubby to go out and do things with his best friend. In other words, don't be around when the best friend is around.

It's really important to spend time doing things with other people in a marriage, so make yourself scarce when your hubby's best friend is around and make a real effort to stop thinking about him. It won't happen unless you make the effort.

Think about hugging and kissing your husband instead... much healthier for your marriage.

I don't know why you need to ask what to do.

You have no problems with your husband that you have said so far, and yet, you are attracted to his friend, and can't stop thinking about him. Wanting to kiss him and hug him is a no-brainer. Don't do it.

Most women in my opinion, from time to time notice a great looking guy, long hair, surfboard, muscular, nice car, big boat parked out in the water, and droooooolllll, and then forget about it. Looking and admiring and thinking... if I were only SINGLE... I'd jump on that surfboard faster than you can blink.

Being married means being married. Being single means being single. When you behave the way you do, you are not putting your priorities in the right place, and it is up to you to control yourself!

Avoid situations where it is just the two of you. Don't start with the texting and late night chats on the computer, and don't start finding fault with your husband to justify checking out this attraction you have.

I can assure you the attraction will be fatal if you cross that line.