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  • Apr 27, 2010, 07:47 PM
    palauni21
    I want to be adopted
    I'm done putting up with my mom... she doesn't accept me how I am and claims that I'm selfish and I am ungrateful... we went through some family stuff when I wasn yournger and its completely scarred me. I can't put up with her and her hastiness... she is a lot more strict on me because I don't have the same beliefs as her and it's causing tension in our relationship.. we've talked about it time and time again and she just doesn't want to listen. PLEASE HELP.!
  • May 2, 2010, 09:23 PM
    Aneles2012

    If she doesn't want to put you up for adoption then there's not much you can do.
    Besides, how old are you? Cause if your older then your not going to get adopted, you'll most likely be put in a foster home and be shipped from foster family to foster family. Instead of making rash, unreasonable decisions because you're upset, think about it logically, with a clear head, and see where that puts you. Try talking to your mother about your problems, communication is key.
  • May 3, 2010, 03:45 AM
    Larken85

    I second that. This is a very rash decision and one you cannot enter into lightly. It would cause you more pain and suffering. Why not just leave your beliefs to yourself until you are old enough to make your own choices. (anything under 16 is personally too young and they need their mother's guidance.)

    You should listen to your mother, often times they are right when you really believe they are wrong. See what things your mom has gone through when she was your age and discuss how it affected her. In an open and honest conversation. You may find a new respect for her and the way she does things.

    I have a bad mom, She has wronged me more times than you can imagine. My finance's mom has done some extremely horrible things to her children. In the end, we are still very closely bonded. It is my opinion that saying you want to be adopted is an immature attempt at getting attention and if you are that immature, you certainly can't make a sound decision that will affect the rest of your life.

    Sit back, relax, and follow your parents rules as you live in her house and you should be grateful that you have a house and parents. Parents that love you so much that they want what they believe is ultimately best for you in the end, no less. She loves you and fears that you are making a huge mistake.

    And by the way, when you say things like I hate you, I wish I wasn't born, or I wish I could be adopted, you need to realize that hearing that is probably making your mother cry very hard inside. She is probably praying for you to see the light too. Don't be dumb enough to x her out of your life simply because of a difference in beliefes. And don't keep breaking her rules either. You could seriously be homeless and without food, clothes, or water. You'd stink and be wishing that your mother was there to help you out. You, be so hungry that you'd be eating out of your mother's trash can just to taste her cooking again. You'd be fearful every day that your shirt might get ripped and you couldn't replace it so you would not only be lonely, and hungry, you'd be cold too.

    This is what it would be like not to have a home and a mother that more than obviously loves you to death. Be grateful for the things you have and put up with the things you do not like. Oh, and get over it man, we all have to do things we hate. It's a PART OF LIFE.
  • May 3, 2010, 08:11 AM
    JudyKayTee

    You cannot be adopted without your mother's consent. You can, however, be emancipated if you can prove you are self supporting and have a place to live - not with friends or relatives.

    Your mother can also declare you to be incorigible and place you in the foster care system until you are of legal age.

    Those are your legal options.

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