My daughter and her 16 yr old boyfriend just found out they are pregnant. She will be moving in with me after the school year is over and he wants to move with her so he can help support her through the pregnancy and after the baby is born. His parents do not want him to move, can he get Emancipated so he can do the right thing after he turns 17 in September?

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Originally Posted by CJL2010

My daughter and her 16 yr old boyfriend just found out they are pregnant. She will be moving in with me after the school year is over and he wants to move with her so he can help support her through the pregnancy and after the baby is born. His parents do not want him to move, can he get Emancipated so he can do the right thing after he turns 17 in September?

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In order to obtain emancipation, he needs to be able to show that he would be in a better situation without his parents care. Does he have a job? Is he able to pay rent and get himself to work and back?

Out of curiosity, how old is your daughter? Are either of them able to financially support a child?

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Originally Posted by this8384

In order to obtain emancipation, he needs to be able to show that he would be in a better situation without his parents care. Does he have a job? Is he able to pay rent and get himself to work and back?

Out of curiosity, how old is your daughter? Are either of them able to financially support a child?

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They will be living with me and yes he does have a job! His motheer has anger issues and when I was there the other day she almost hit him in the head with a cell phone and she busted a mirror in the bathroom. This isn't a place that I feel is very safe for him,my daughter or my grandbaby. My daughter is 17. I will be taking him back and forth to work or my daughter will she has a car also so getting to work is not a problem!!

Emancipation isn't going to work in this situation. He won't be on his own. And that is the frst test he would have to pass.

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Originally Posted by califdadof3

Emancipation isnt going to work in this situation. He wont be on his own. And that is the frst test he would have to pass.

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So what would your advice be for us? He doesn't want my daughter to go through this without him there and he is in a violent situation... We need to do something fast!

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Originally Posted by CJL2010

So what would your advice be for us? He doesnt want my daughter to go through this without him there and he is in a violent situation... We need to do something fast!!

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I don't really know that you can do anything at this point. He is a minor and legally, still his parents' responsibility. If they say he can't move out, then he can't move out.

Sure, he can run away - then his parents will the police and then you'll get into trouble for concealing a minor.

Have you tried speaking to his parents about this situation? Tried sitting down with them and explaining that your daughter and their son want to be there for one another?

Just out of curiosity: what caused her to break the mirror? And "almost" hitting someone in the head with a cell phone doesn't constitute anger issues - was she throwing it at him or swinging at him? What was occurring at that point in time that caused her to be upset?

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Originally Posted by this8384

I don't really know that you can do anything at this point. He is a minor and legally, still his parents' responsibility. If they say he can't move out, then he can't move out.

Sure, he can run away - then his parents will the police and then you'll get into trouble for concealing a minor.

Have you tried speaking to his parents about this situation? Tried sitting down with them and explaining that your daughter and their son want to be there for one another?

Just out of curiosity: what caused her to break the mirror? And "almost" hitting someone in the head with a cell phone doesn't constitute anger issues - was she throwing it at him or swinging at him? What was occurring at that point in time that caused her to be upset?

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We were discussing the current situation and she told him that she didn't love him anymore and yes she was throwing the phone at his head!! She stormed out of the house and when she came back she went to the bathroom and busted the mirror. This isn't the first time she has done any of this!! I don't want him to run away cause it won't be doing anybody any good but leaving him in that situation isn't helping either!!

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Originally Posted by CJL2010

We were discussing the current situation and she told him that she didnt love him anymore and yes she was throwing the phone at his head!!!! She stormed out of the house and when she came back she went to the bathroom and busted the mirror. This isnt the first time she has done any of this!!!! I dont want him to run away cause it wont be doing anybody any good but leaving him in that situation isnt helping either!!!

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First of all, you need to stop shouting at everyone. We're trying to help you.

Second, I'd be a little p.o.'d if my 16-year-old son told me that he had gotten someone pregnant. In fact, I'd be a little more than upset. You say "this isn't the first time" - the first time what? She's broken something? Thrown something at him?

What do you feel is so detrimental to him that it warrants emancipation?

You know I am not sure moving away from home and moving in with you is the "right thing" in fact I am almost say I believe it would be the wrong thing. So he can be there, he can visit and see her, talk to her on the phone and be there as much as possible to see the child.

You are going against the wishes of his mother and that is where you don't belong, his relationship with his mom is really none of your business.

Your relationship with your daught is. If he wants to do the right thing, he gives her support and visits until both finish schools and can actually support thierself

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

You know I am not sure moving away from home and moving in with you is the "right thing" in fact I am almost say I believe it would be the wrong thing. So he can be there, he can visit and see her, talk to her on the phone and be there as much as possible to see the child.

You are going against the wishes of his mother and that is where you don't belong, his relationship with his mom is really none of your business.

Your relationship with your daught is. If he wants to do the right thing, he gives her support and visits untill both finish schools and can actually support thierself

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Have to spread the rep, but great advice as always.

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Originally Posted by this8384

First of all, you need to stop shouting at everyone. We're trying to help you.

Second, I'd be a little p.o.'d if my 16-year-old son told me that he had gotten someone pregnant. In fact, I'd be a little more than upset. You say "this isn't the first time" - the first time what? She's broken something? Thrown something at him?

What do you feel is so detrimental to him that it warrants emancipation?

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Ok, so I wasn't yelling at anyone. I am just trying to get you to understand the gravity of the situation. I apoligize if you thought I was yelling. Secong to answer your questions, this isn't the first time she has thrown things at him and broken things.She has broken windows and mirrors anything she can get her hands on when she gets mad she will throw. I understand that they are pretty p.o.'d that he got her pregnant I'm not exactally happy about it but , she is pregnant and he wants to be responsible and they aren't even wanting him around her while she is pregnant. I think it's a little late for them to start trying to control what he does at this point. Now they want to try and be caring parents when he is going to be a parent.

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Originally Posted by CJL2010

Ok, so I wasn't yelling at anyone. I am just trying to get you to understand the gravity of the situation. I apoligize if you thought I was yelling.

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Using multiple exclamation points indicates that you're upset. I apologize if I misunderstood.

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Secong to answer your questions, this isn't the first time she has thrown things at him and broken things.She has broken windows and mirrors anything she can get her hands on when she gets mad she will throw. I understand that they are pretty p.o.'d that he got her pregnant I'm not exactally happy about it but , she is pregnant and he wants to be responsible and they aren't even wanting him around her while she is pregnant. I think it's a little late for them to start trying to control what he does at this point. Now they want to try and be caring parents when he is going to be a parent.

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While it's not the best behavior, she's allowed to do whatever she wants with her belongings in her home.

No, it's not "a little late" for them. He is their child, not yours. He is not going to be eligible for emancipation unless he can prove that he is better off without them - that means having his own job, residence and car. He does not have those things. I realize that this is not what you want to hear, but it's the law. He has no grounds for emancipation.

There is another out here. It's a long shot, but it may be a possibility. Have him talk to a school guidance counselor about his parent's anger issues. Especially if she gets physical with him and he can show the results. The school guidance counselor would probably be required to report this to Family Services who can then investigate and, if they find he is in danger will remove him from the home.

One other thing comes to mind. If both parents will agree, they can get married.