I am an 18 year old girl and I have never had a boyfriend, a first kiss and I am pretty sure no guys have ever liked me... at least not enough for a relationship. The truth is, it has gotten to the point where I cry all th time now. I feel so depressed that no guys seem to ever like me, whilst my friend's love lives seem to be thriving and I am just in the background hearing all of their stories. I am I guess, kind of shy, but once I gt to know people I open up. I have a really good group of friends but I still feel this horible sense of loneliness and an overwhelming fear of being alone forever. I am constantly overlooked by guys and I feel so worthless. I am average looking, maybe even kind of pretty (not any type of supermodel though!) but it seems like I am not good enough for any guys to like me. I feel so embarrassed and sad that I have never had a boyfriend, and I don't know how I can change things because I can't force someone to like me. My friends always tell me to become more confident and just to wait and be patient for the right guy but to be honest I think it is all lies. I am terrified that I will never experience love and be miserable my whole life. I don't know what to do , please help me.

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Originally Posted by smcthatgirl2

I am I guess, kind of shy.... I am terrified that I will never experience love and be miserable my whole life. I don't know what to do , please help me.

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Hello s:

Couple things. Eternal is a long time - especially when you're 18.

Look, this can be a BIG problem, or you can nip it in the bud right now. It's going to involve some changes in your behavior, of course. The question is, do you want to change it NOW, or do you want to go through YEARS of therapy, spend jillions, and THEN have to change??

Nahhh. It's easier to do it now. So, CHANGE. Now, I know what you THINK about yourself. But, I'm saying DO something different, IN SPITE of how you feel about it. Walk up to a boy you like and tell him. I know, it sounds hard. But, it gets easier with practice. Ever hear the thing about faking it till you make it?? That's what this is.

Really, it's no more difficult than that. Or, you can make it real difficult. Me? I'd opt for the easy solution.

excon

Hello you 18, your life isn't over. Besides you don't need a boy to like you to be happy. Your really taking this to a whole 'nother level. Your 18 so your dramatic, it's normal--- but you make it seem as though you have no life if there is no boy in your life. Chances are that attitude is what is killing off any chance you have with ANY guy.

Guys like girls who are fun to be around, not ones that get all desperate and cry all the time-- they usually stay away from that.

So my suggestion to you is to GET OUT THERE. Stop whining. Get the whole boo hoo I have no boyfriend attitude and throw it away, and don't look back.

Are you going to school? If not start applying for colleges, get a move on with your life.

Do you have a job? Even a part-time one. You need to start getting independent lady.

What do you do in your spare time? Do you just sit around, go on the internet? Well the internet has it's many perks but it won't make you happy. So go out there! Volunteer at pet shelters [if you like animals], nursing homes, food drives, homeless shelters and just help your community and make something of yourself. Take a class, cooking class, sewing class, learn a new language.

Go out! Make new friends, go bowling with friends, go skating with friends, go window shopping with friends, for god sakes do something.

The more busy you are the more fun you will have.

Your 18 you shouldn't be depressed and bored. You have youth, vitality! Get out have fun!

You are more likely to meet a nice guy while your out there doing things rather than sitting around being all mopey!

Cheer up! Life is great!

Hi, smcthatgirl2!

You've already received two, excellent posts of advice above!

I didn't go on my first date until I was 18. That was my senior year of high school. It was the only date that I ever had in high school.

The more social activities in which you're involved, the more likely it'll be that you'll connect with many others.

Thanks!

Thanks for your advice everyone :) . I do have a social life and go out with my friends all the time. We have even made friends with a group of guys recently. I guess what I am trying to say is that I am sick of feeling left behind and overlooked by every guy I meet. All my friends seem to have all these guys liking them whilst I have no one. I am a friendly and fun person and it just makes me feel so worthless to know that I am so undesirable. I don't know what I am doing wrong apart from being kind of shy. Also I met this guy on the weekend and I think I like him. I managed to talk to him that night and he was really nice to me maybe even a little flirty. For example he offered me a piggyback randomly lol and kept giving me 'birthday hugs' because it was my birthday. Also he bought me a drink when we were out. But the problem is I don't know if he likes me or if he is just a really nice guy and like that to everyone. Also , I added him on Facebook but I am not confident enough to speak to him on chat just in case he thinks I am weird or something. What do you think I should do. Do you think he likes me or am I just looking too much into everything?

Hi again, smcthatgirl2!

Do you know if he has a girlfriend? That would be the first thing to find out.

Also, HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY TO YOU! :)

Thanks!

Lol thanks! No he doesn't have a girlfriend.. what do u think I should do?

Do you have opportunity to see him in person on a regular basis?

I met him officially for the first time on Saturday night, but yeah he is friends with one of my guy friends so I will probably see him this Friday night. Any advice?

When you do see him again, you might just mention how much you enjoyed the things that he did the last time that you saw him. Also, just stirke up a conversation and bring that into the conversation.

Then, you see what he has to say.

The more opportunities that you have to speak to him in person or on the telephone, the better. Things online can take too long and can be so impersonal. It really isn't possible to know how someone really is, if people only communicate online.