After being with my boyfriend for 2 /12 years where the verbal and emotional abuse escalated in frequency and severity; the other day he asked me as I was half asleep, "Do you love me any less?" (Somewhere around 12AM) We had been discussing going our separate ways for the past week. We are now renting a 2 bdr apt. but move out at the end of the month. The two days proceeding this he said he was "done with the relationship." Why would he ask this question? He has never acknowledged or apologized for any of the abuse. By the way, the relationship is over and we are going our separate ways.

Who knows?

Maybe at some deeper level he understands that what he did was wrong and wants to see if it affected how you feel about him... as you're going to separate anyway, why don't you ask him?

It's just emotional baggage. Just because you guys are breaking up and moving on, doesn't mean all the emotion goes with it. Your feelings actually hold on a lot longer than you think.

You're going your separate ways, and obviously there are reasons for that.. but I'm sure he still cares and is probably a little hurt. Whether he wanted this separation, you simply can't drop someone and not be affected by it.

It's really impossible to say why he asked it, but I do want to say that you will be one lucky lady when you get out of this abusive relationship. Most woman aren't so lucky to get rid of an abusive man.

It feels as if your worried or sad or upset about it? :confused:

He probably was already through with the relationship when he started to abuse you. It was probably his sick way of making you want to leave him because he didn't have the guts to do so.

Just like their was no logical reason he abused you, there will be no logical reason he asks that question. Take your blessing and run like hell as not many escape so easily.

I think your just having regrets at what has gone on. You should be celebrating the end of sanity, and not tripping on more of it!

You want an apology you will never get because he is not sorry, just wants someone else to abuse.

RUN! Run like the wind and just leave this abusive guy behind