I have been with my wife for almost 3 year almost married a year in June, and recently we had been fighting pretty much everyday then after about 4-5 days of arguing daily she gets pissed and tells me its over, that our marriage is over and all this, yet now that she's away from me she still talks to me through text messages, doesn't want to call much but keeps talking about how she still loves me and wants me back yet when I try to bring up the conversation she's always changes the subject, is it possible that we'll get back together? Is it possible she's done found someone? It just doesn't make any sense

Sorry to say anything is possible. But I bet its more that you fight too much. I suggest a relationship counselor. From your post I took this ("that our marriage is over and all this,") the frase and all this strikes me as insensitive. I may be wrong and I am certainly not blaming the issues on you in anyway but I am just saying that if your marriage got off to a rocky start, its time to get help.

Marriage is forever and if you are thinking of ending it then you really need to be thinking of fixing it as fast as possible. Just take the advice and get help for the both of you.

You aren't communicating honestly about your problems.

I agree counseling is a good idea.

Stop texting. What are you arguing about? How old are you both?

It just doesn't make sense to me that she can end things... then want to talk to me constantly

Yes it does, because once the romance ends the commitment did to and she just sees you as a comfortable friend like her other girlfriends, but you can't move on, with other romantic interests so you remain trap in the friend zone, until she has other romantic interest to fill her time.

So while she fight boredom, and is free to see other options and opportunities, you sit and hope in confusion, instead of letting her fend for herself, and you heal.

Makes perfect sense to me because she gets what she wants you, without the strings attached, and free as a bird, while you get the hurt confusion and misery of thinking her feelings for you are still there.

Not confusing at all, since you allow her to do this free of charge, without consequences.

Talaniman Rule-When they ask for a break, give it to them and do your own thing.

Talaniman Rule- When you break up, have the courtesy to revoke their relationship privileges.

Talaniman Rules- When you get dumped, why go back, and get dumped again.


Talaniman Rule- Don't play games with your heart, and don't let somebody else play games with it either.

Talaniman Rule of Rules- Don't get sucked in the confusion of being friends, at the expense of your healing

Talaniman Rule- If an ex wants you back, It has to be on their own without your influence.

Talaniman Rule- Never get so carried away by feelings that you can't see the facts.

Talaniman Rule- Never get so wrapped up with wanting something, when you know you can't have it.

You should heed all these rules for your own good. They will end all the confusion, and allow you to heal, and make better decisions for yourself, based on facts (what your brain is trying to find) and not just feelings (what your heart keeps telling you!).