I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years now and have been living together (renting) for 5 month. The last few months we have not been getting on at all and I am not happy. I find myself trying very hard not to get annoyed with him over the smallest things. The thing is, my boyfriend is very selfish, always has been but last last few months it has got really bad. We have been trying for a baby for the last year, I have been taking all sorts of tablets and I have PCOS, now he has said that we can't be bothered to keep trying as it seems it isn't going to work. We don't have a sex life anymore as he can't be bothered, he doesn't kiss or cuddle me anymore unless he wants something (Food oe money) I do all the housework and most of the cooking.
I am so confused what to do, I love him so much, I wanted his children but now Im not so sure. I don't know if I want to be with a man that acts as though he couldn't care less about me. I have tried to talk to him about this and even got to the point where I have said we sort out OUR problems or its over, he ignores me and doesn't have answers, I just don't have it in me to walk out.

Sounds like leaving is your only option. You've tried to talk to him, and he refuses.

Do you honestly think he's going to suddenly turn around and change everything about him? People only change if they see the need to do so. It's obvious that he has no desire to change any of his actions.

If you try to tough it out, you're only going to make yourself miserable. You're the only one doing any work in the relationship. What happens if you DO end up pregnant? Do you think he's going to be willing to spend any time or money on the baby? It's more likely that you'll be doing all the work, he'll probably either just leave suddenly or start 'staying' with a buddy and slowly move out, probably complaining that the baby crying is interrupting his sleep or something.

Though you might want to continue to put effort into repairing this relationship, sounds like he's given up on the relationship already. He's just sticking around as a roommate more than a boyfriend.

If there's no progress, then don't drag this out. Make it a clean break and quit suffering. You deserve better, you shouldn't settle for unhappiness.

There will be someone who appreciates you. This guy doesn't. I hope you meet someone who'll make you happy and I hope you have babies. Sounds like you'd be a great Mom... Blessings

I think I'd move on. He's just not the one!

There are men out there that will love you and treat you with love, respect, and compassion. Find someone who loves you and is excited about having a wife and children.

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Originally Posted by Devorameira

I think I'd move on. He's just not the one!

There are men out there that will love you and treat you with love, respect, and compassion. Find someone who loves you and is excited about having a wife and children.

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Good luck and let us know what is going on in your life. Blessings:)

Well enjoy yourself being with somebody you do not like. If you can not walk out that is your problem. You're the one that can make the decision to make changes in your life or not.

Only you can decide and nothing we say here will matter any, because your going to do what is safe anyway, and you will have a miserable life because of it.

Please get counseling for yourself.

You love him, but don't like him, and you want to bring a baby into the world, with a boyfriend. Wow, nothing suprises me today! I think you need to concentrate on getting your life in order, and go down the straight path. Because your with the wrong guy. He isn't going to change! (and your not thinking right, either). It's a blessing, it isn't working.

There will be someone else who will love children and you.
I think the boyfriend is self-centered and you deserve better.

Find it in you to walk away.

Don't stay and be miserable.

If your miserable before kids, imagine how miserable you will be if you had a few.

Take out the trash as this relationship has run its course and his interest has turned to apathy.

You can't even talk to each other so what's the point in staying? You have had enough of a preview of what life with him will be so I hope you paid good attention.

Separate ways, that's the answer.