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  • Apr 15, 2010, 03:39 PM
    xxlove21
    I need major advice about relationships
    I am going to a semi with a friend. I found out he likes me a lot after we agreed to go as friends.. He was trying to find out who I liked, but I wouldn't tell him who because he is my best guy friend and I don't want to break his heart. He threatened me to tell hom who I liked or he would do something bad.And now I am not so sure about going with him anymore.

    People I really need your advice on what to do.! Please help me!!
  • Apr 15, 2010, 04:08 PM
    taaam

    A real friend wouldn't threaten you for something like that. He is just jealous, and you should leave him alone. That is just plain immature.
  • Apr 15, 2010, 08:44 PM
    talaniman

    Don't go with him, and get a new best guy friend. How dare he threaten you, even if he was only kidding. What a loser!
  • Apr 19, 2010, 03:07 AM
    Larken85

    Totally agree here. He is just acting out like a hurt little boy. Time to tell him to mature or ship off.
  • May 13, 2010, 11:33 AM
    xxlove21
    If I said yes to a date. How do I say I don't want to go anymore
    I am going with a friend to semi. I don't want to go with him anymore. I don't know what to say to him because I found out he was in love with me.Can you please help me figure oyt a way to say to him that I don't want to go with him!!
  • May 13, 2010, 07:21 PM
    Bluex_Bird333

    Just tell him that you don't want to ruin your friendship because it is too dear to you. But don't be too harsh. Don't date someone else too quickly either.
  • May 13, 2010, 11:44 PM
    Larken85

    Totally agree here. It is not really OK to go with another person to the semi. This will really hurt him. However you have to tell him the truth, gently. Tell him that you do not feel the same way, that you love him only as a friend and that you couldn't stand to lose his friendship. Its not easy to remain friends after a break up and things will change forever between you if you date.

    Sorry, I know its hard to hurt people, but seriously it will hurt him so much more if you do not tell him now. If you go through with it just to make sure he doesn't get hurt, he will find out later and think you were leading him on. So just tell him the truth and do it gently.

    If he doesn't get it you may have to resort to a blunter approach but save that one for later.
  • May 14, 2010, 04:23 AM
    Devorameira

    I think you've gotten some great advice already. Telling him that you don't want to mess up your friendship is a way to get out of it without really hurting his feelings too bad.

    If he doesn't accept that and continues to ask you out you are just going to have to be blunt with him.
  • May 14, 2010, 08:22 AM
    I wish
    Tell the truth.

    Be honest.

    I would also add that you don't want to lead him on because you don't feel the same way about him.
  • May 14, 2010, 03:42 PM
    talaniman

    You asked this question first in April, and you still have not told him your not going? What's up with that?

    The longer you put it off, the worse it will be.

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