An Old flame contacted me after 3 years out of the blue, Help!
I dated a girl for 2 and half years and we broke up over 3 years ago. We both had issues that led to a pretty harsh break up. In the end we went our separate ways and have spoken only briefly over email in the last 3 years. I haven't heard from her in about 2 years, although there have been times when we have run into each other, although we did not speak, because she was with someone she was dating.
3 days ago she emailed me wanting to see how I was, asking about my love life, work, and telling me how great of a person I am. She went on to say she is in a serious relationship, and stated she is moving in with him while rhetorically asking me whether that is the normal thing to do in order to take a relationship to another level.
I've ignored her for 3 years, and I'm just curious as to why she would contact me now. I guess the conventional wisdom would point to some level of insecurity within her own relationship, and perhaps she has contacted me to sort of say, listen this is it I'm warning you that I'm going to be extremely unavailable and this is your last chance to intervene bub.
The only reason I ask, is because she is the only person I've ever loved. I haven't dated for 3 years, too, but not because I don't have options, just because I think I want to find someone better than what I've had, you know always move up, but I haven't had any luck, and I don't want to sell anyone short.
I'm also in a transitory period in terms of career, where I'm switching careers and heading back to school, which means I won't have a good pay check coming to me for a while. Should I reply? Is she just getting a feel for where I am? Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.