So me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years.I weighed 125 when we got together and I was fit, but then after I was able to be myself around him I gained weight up to 165.I recently lost weight and now weigh 150, but there is still none of that affection that there was when I weighed 125.I know that people say when someone loves you they should love you for you.I'm still in the process of losing weight, but I feel that is I don't loose enough weight fast enough I will loose him.What do I do?

Well I have to admit that if the guy doesn't like you for you then that a clue that he's dating you for the wrong reasons. Looks play a part but if he's the right one for you then it should not effect your relationship

Never lose (or gain) weight for another person. It has to be for you. And if your boyfriend is that shallow, you are better off without him. Can you imagine how he would react if you were pregnant?

His loss of interest may have nothing to do with any weight issues.

Try talking to him about your feeling,ask him does he still find you attractive,maybe plan an evening together.

Get fit together,go swimming or for a walk.

Girl, dump him!
Men are not interested in love but more like interested in what women have to offer, if you catch my drift. Don't ever let a man define who you are. Be who you want to be and not what your boyfriend wants to see! If he can't appreciate you for you then that's his loss.

However, if you're really looking to shed a few extra pounds, I would recommend running everyday for about 30-40 min. Also eat nothing more then 1200-1500 calories a day.

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Originally Posted by azaidan1

Girl, dump him!
Men are not interested in love but

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Men arnt interested in love?

Sorry I meant to say *most men*

Don't get to carried away here, it was a typo -.-

If you are very young, say recently out of your teens, than your body might just be developing out of that teenage skinny phase. In other words, you could easily be just as healthy or healthier at 150 than 125. Not everyone can stay tiny forever especially if it isn't they way your body is built.
The bo should be more interested in your health than what he thinks you should look like anyway.
It may have nothing to do with your weight and you might just be in a little relationship slump. Good luck!

Dump the boyfriend and lose weight ( if you need to for height and body size) for yourself.

If you have to change for him to love you, he does not really love you anyway, Often over the years, we lose communication and that, not the weight is the real issues