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My ungreatful son

Hello my name is Zennith and I need advise on my 15 year old son Duane. Duane lives with his dad in California and his 2 brothers Joseph (12) nathan (10) and cousin PJ (18) reside in Arizona with myself and there step dad Albert. About June of last year Duane has not talked to me because he asked if he could have $100 back in June 09 (never told me what it was for no did he say he needed it by a certain time. Besides all that, I told him yes but I probably wouldn't be sending it until the following weekend cause Albert (his step dad) had a job lined up to get the money. Well the next weekend came and he called me on the following Saturday I told him it will be mailed out Monday since it was too late on Saturday to mail out. It was at that time duane told me "I AM SO DISSIPOINTED IN YOU" I was so shocked to hear my son say that I couldn't believe it. So, he refussed to talk to me when I called him. So, Christmas was coming and he ALWAYS comes out to az but not this time he didn't want to see me and that really hurt not only me but his step dad, brothers and cousin now since then, I have tried to call no luck I have sent him apologized so many time already I have lost count. I have also tried calling him no luck I love my kids more than life its self and this is really hurting me. I made a mistake I'm only human right how do I handle this?
My mother taught me not to leave angry, or upset at each other cause you never know what could happen you may never be able to say your sorry and I wouldn't wish that on anyone.
PLEASE HELP!! I am a great mom and my kids come first!!
This is hard because I have three boys that didn't do anything yet they are hurting and its not fair.
Thanks
Zennith castro

It sounds as though he is ungrateful and disrespectful. You did nothing wrong and have no reason to appologize. You did all that you could to get the money to your son without question. He should be ashamed of himself. Trust me, he will be calling back but don't be shocked if he calls asking for more money. Keep your ground... and if he could not give me a valid reason for needing the money; I wouldn't send him a dime.

You did nothing wrong except baby him. He's so use to getting his way he's like a kid who don't get a cookie before dinner. I love my children and I would do anything for them, but I've always believed in respect. He's spoiled. STOP BABYING HIM:rolleyes:

Sounds like he's chucked a mega tanty and he's holding his breath until he turns blue.

You're only feeding the tanty by doing all the apologizing and bowing and scraping.

I'd suggest YOU don't speak to him for a while. It's time to take back your power and to stop giving it to him.

He may be 16, but he's behaving like a 6 year old. Treat him like one.

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Originally Posted by Gemini54

Sounds like he's chucked a mega tanty and he's holding his breath until he turns blue.

You're only feeding the tanty by doing all the apologizing and bowing and scraping.

I'd suggest YOU don't speak to him for a while. It's time to take back your power and to stop giving it to him.

He may be 16, but he's behaving like a 6 year old. Treat him like one.

I agree with Gemini... Treat him like the kid he is...

You need to stop apologizing to him. You did nothing wrong.

Do you have communication with your ex? That would be the first place to start.

This little twit needs his mouth washed out for speaking to his mother this way.

Did you ever send him the $100 that you said you would?

If all of this has happened, as you suggest, because of the delay in doing what you said you were going to do, seems to me that sending the money would have prevented all of this.

You could have said no.