So at a party at a friends house I passed out drunk in a bedroom while the wife keep partying and ended up in a bathroom with two of our other female friends, there talking about girls kissing and ended up kissing them both, after this they both told her not to tell me I may get mad. So after 3 and a half months later she told me what happen and said that it didn't mean anything because they were girls and playing around... well to me kiss someone other that your spouse be a guy or girl is cheatin, I told her am not mad it better not happen again but after a few days it is pi$$ng me off a little, am I wrong for being mad?

Are you really serious!

You are passed out drunk, your wife is partying on.

And now you get upset about the matter.

Here's a concept, what would have happened if you had not passed out drunk? Think about that.

The fact that it's 3 months later and your wife did tell speaks to her concern for you and her concern to not keep secrets from you.

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Originally Posted by donf

Are you really serious!

You are passed out drunk, your wife is partying on.

And now you get upset about the matter.

Here's a concept, what would have happened if you had not passed out drunk? Think about that.

The fact that it's 3 months later and your wife did tell speaks to her concern for you and and her concern to not keep secrets from you.

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Am sure it would have happen the same way seeing how they did it in a bathroom so no one else saw, and if she was so concerned about me why do it in the first place and why not tell me right away?
And me passing out before my wife I had a light lunch:D and me going to sleep in a room to sleep it off don't add up to my wife kissing to girls in a bathroom.

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Originally Posted by Clee79

am sure it would have happen the same way seeing how they did it in a bathroom so no one eles saw, and if she was so concerned about me why do it in the first place and why not tell me right away?
and me passing out before my wife i had a light lunch:D and me going to sleep in a room to sleep it off dont add up to my wife kissing to girls in a bathroom.

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Why get so drunk you don't know what your wife is doing? Drinking until you pass out and you're wife being so drunk she's making out with girl or guys it doesn't matter.. It's wrong. Shame on both of you! I think I'd leave the booze alone.:eek:

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Originally Posted by Kitkat22

Why get so drunk you don't know what your wife is doing? Drinking untill you pass out and you're wife being so drunk she's making out with girl or guys it doesn't matter..It's wrong. Shame on both of you! I think I'd leave the booze alone.:eek:

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Sorry I forgot to mention she was not drunk. And it was new years I didn't drink till I passed out I just didn't want to drive home drunk and I was done drinking so I went to sleep... I guess I worded it wrong when I said I passed out drunk.

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Originally Posted by Clee79

Sorry i forgot to mention she was not drunk. and it was new years i didnt drink till i passed out i just didnt want to drive home drunk and i was done drinking so i went to sleep... i guess i worded it wrong when i said i passed out drunk.

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Still you all need to sit down and talk. Don't let the anger build up in you.
Tell her exactly how you feel. It will make you feel better? Good Luck :)

The OP story keeps changing to make him out to be the good guy in this.

You were drunk, you passed out or went to sleep. Whatever it is is Simple. YOU BOTH WERE PARTYING. IT WAS NEW YEARS EVE.

She was partying and kissed some girls that are her friends.

Man if I did not want to get into trouble here, instead of getting you all mad, maybe it should turn you on instead. Having girls kissing other girls. There is a live fantasy most guys just dream about.

It was New Years eve which is usually greeted with kissing. Guess they thought they were better company then the guys.

This is not a regular thing. It was a party and people were drinking and new years. They are best friends.. I do not know, maybe there is a double standard thing going on here but,

Saying you were not mad, and now all of a sudden you are, at least she told you but maybe from now on she will regret telling you the truth and because of your reaction with the truth now, maybe other truths will not come out so easy if need be because of your part in your reaction.

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Originally Posted by Jesushelper1976

The OP story keeps changing to make him out to be the good guy in this.

You were drunk, you passed out or went to sleep. Whatever it is is Simple. YOU BOTH WERE PARTYING. IT WAS NEW YEARS EVE.

She was partying and kissed some girls that are her friends.

Man if I did not want to get into trouble here, instead of getting you all mad, maybe it should turn you on instead. Having girls kissing other girls. There is a live fantasy most guys just dream about.

It was New Years eve which is usually greeted with kissing. Guess they thought they were better company then the guys.

This is not a regular thing. It was a party and people were drinking and new years. They are best friends.. I do not know, maybe there is a double standard thing going on here but,

Saying you were not mad, and now all of a sudden you are, at least she told you but maybe from now on she will regret telling you the truth and because of your reaction with the truth now, maybe other truths will not come out so easy if need be because of your part in your reaction.

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Okay first you say you were drunk, then you say you weren't drunk ! Your wife is at a New Years Eve party and she isn't drunk:rolleyes:

Kissing someone is not cheating, I don't think it's appropriate when you are married, but it isn't cheating. Get your story straight! Who knows what happened to you while you were passed out!:eek:

I hope he did not wake up with a sore bum bum... That is where all the guys were... ackkkk.. lol

Yes the story keeps changing is what I noticed too.

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I hope he did not wake up with a sore bum bum... That is where all the guys were... ackkkk.. lol

Yes the story keeps changing is what I noticed too.

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Jhelper.. I don't have the words:D:eek:;)

I am sorry if you go to that type of parties, and can't understand how things happen, you don't have a clue.

Things happen when you mix drinking to extreme.

So why is she not pissed that you passed out drunk ?

Opinion, both of you go to AA and start finding social life that does not include the words "I got drunk and"

Clee,

I'll try to explain it this way. Intense things can happen at parties, good or bad.

Now mix in the alcohol an whatever else made the rounds at the party and count yourself that she didn't choose to spend the night in the bathroom with several guys.

Also, about the earlier fantasy about girls kissing girls, not even on my long range radar.

Multiple girls kissing me is certainly on my wish list, but my wife does not believe that it would be a wise thing for me to do, regardless of the amount of alcohol I might consume. She has a tendency to want to schedule me for a live autopsy, mine, if I'm dumb enough to be there in the first place.

People do crazy things at New Years Parties. Flirting, stripping, making asse* out of each other, fighting, breaking things, dancing stupid, slobbering on people, walking into walls, beer stands, putting their teeth in somebody's glass of beer. You name it, somebody has done it.

It is the booze talking... booze makes people do things they would otherwise not ever dream about doing. When you find yourself peeing on somebody's car tire, or passed out in somebody else's bed, or when you find yourself giggling with a bunch of girls and start kissing and fondling and doing the hoochie coochie, it's time to think about not drinking at New Years Parties, or at least having a plan to reduce the risk of humiliation to yourself.

I would be equally ticked with my husband if he passed out in a strange bed for ANY reason, just as he would be ticked with me if I was kissing people in the bathroom.

Two wrongs don't make a right.

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Originally Posted by Jake2008

People do crazy things at New Years Parties. Flirting, stripping, making asse* out of eachother, fighting, breaking things, dancing stupid, slobbering on people, walking into walls, beer stands, putting their teeth in somebody's glass of beer. You name it, somebody has done it.

It is the booze talking.......booze makes people do things they would otherwise not ever dream about doing. When you find yourself peeing on somebody's car tire, or passed out in somebody elses bed, or when you find yourself giggling with a bunch of girls and start kissing and fondling and doing the hoochie coochie, it's time to think about not drinking at New Years Parties, or at least having a plan to reduce the risk of humiliation to yourself.

I would be equally ticked with my husband if he passed out in a strange bed for ANY reason, just as he would be ticked with me if I was kissing people in the bathroom.

Two wrongs don't make a right.

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You both need AA.

I kissed a squadron of firemen once on new year's eve - it's that sort of evening - people do impulsive and silly things.

I wonder if there is something else going on in your marriage that you can't just laugh about it. She told you didn't she?

Unless there is another deeper issue involved, I'd lighten up and get over it if I were you.

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Originally Posted by Gemini54

I kissed a squadron of firemen once on new year's eve - it's that sort of evening - people do impulsive and silly things.

I wonder if there is something else going on in your marriage that you can't just laugh about it. She told you didn't she?

Unless there is another deeper issue involved, I'd lighten up and get over it if I were you.

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Take the advice the people here have given you.:rolleyes:

As far as the kissing, LET IT GO.

When was the last time that you had fun without drinking alcohol?

If alcohol is causing problems in your life, then maybe you both should cut back or stop altogether.

And you cannot go back and change your story because you don't like the feedback. You said that you passed out drunk, and that's what we believe.

I give your wife credit for being honest. Even if it did take a few months. I'd like to know why your wife's friends are "afraid" of you?

Jmjoseph, that is a very good question. Why are the friends so AFRAID of you? Wonder if he is a control and tries to control every aspect of her life... It is okay for him but not her, and jealousy issues. Hmmm.

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Originally Posted by Jesushelper1976

Jmjoseph, that is a very good question. Why are the friends so AFRAID of you? Wonder if he is a control and tries to control every aspect of her life... It is okay for him but not her, and jealousy issues. Hmmm.

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I don't think he's coming back.. It's nice when you can help people put things in order!

Dude, you're crazy! I would love it if my wife made out with a chick. I'm always trying to get her to kiss her friends. It's probably my number one fanatasy. But honestly it sounds like they were just goofing around and you're overreacting. Remember guys are more physical than girls to begin with, so something like a kiss to them doesn't necessarily mean as much as you're reading into it. If they were doing heavy petting then you might get worried. Girls kissing is hot, don't swet this one.