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  • Apr 11, 2010, 11:43 PM
    chey123
    Should 15 years old girl sleep with her father
    Hello
    I would like to know is it normal 15 years old girl to sleep with her father? My fiancée soon my husband still sleep with her daughter when she is here she is coming every weekend!
  • Apr 11, 2010, 11:54 PM
    hheath541

    Is there another place for her to sleep? That doesn't seem at all normal or healthy to me.
  • Apr 12, 2010, 03:48 AM
    Jake2008
    Do you expect that you will also have to sleep in the same bed with the 15 year old as well?

    My opinion is that is totally inappropriate and not at all a good idea, and most likely any reasonable person would say the same thing.

    If you have to, and there isn't a bed for her in her own room, go and buy a rollaway bed, and have it prepared when she arrives.

    I'd be telling your fiancé in no uncertain terms the sleeping arrangements are going to change, and change now.
  • Apr 12, 2010, 04:12 AM
    ScottGem

    Umm no. a 15 yr old should not sleep in the same bed with a parent except under some very specific circumstances. Maybe if you were on vacation and trying to save money, it might make sense. But otherwise it's a very large red flag and you need to think twice about a relationship with this man.
  • Apr 12, 2010, 02:56 PM
    Gemini54
    My husband has a 15 yr old daughter, and I would be very concerned if they still slept in the same bed.

    In your case, it all may all be totally innocent, but it's still weird.

    It suggests a level of dependency that's not healthy.

    Does he expect that she will be sleeping with the both of you? If you want to continue with the relationship, I'd be making up a bed on the couch for her.
  • Apr 12, 2010, 03:03 PM
    jmjoseph

    Does she have her own room where she sleeps the rest of the time? Or does she sleep in the bed with her mother?

    Either way, this is not normal. I would talk to him about it, and get it straightened out.

    Do you think that there is any innappropriate relationship between them?
  • Apr 12, 2010, 03:12 PM
    Kitkat22
    Absolutley a no no. He should know better and so should she. Lay down the rules and stick to them!:eek:
  • Apr 12, 2010, 08:18 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    No,
  • Apr 12, 2010, 08:23 PM
    ohsohappy

    Does she not have her own bedroom? Heck no it's not normal. I wouldn't sleep in the same bed as my father, like, ever. I honestly don't think I ever did. That's not normal, and I think it's very very very strange.
  • Apr 12, 2010, 08:38 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ohsohappy View Post
    Does she not have her own bedroom? Heck no it's not normal. I wouldn't sleep in the same bed as my father, like, ever. I honestly don't think I ever did. That's not normal, and I think it's very very very strange.

    I agree it is very strange. Put a stop to this!
  • Apr 13, 2010, 07:46 AM
    hheath541
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by jmjoseph View Post
    Does she have her own room where she sleeps the rest of the time? Or does she sleep in the bed with her mother?

    Either way, this is not normal. I would talk to him about it, and get it straightened out.

    Do you think that there is any innappropriate relationship between them?

    My guess is that it's crossed her mind, especially since she came here wanting confirmation of her feelings.
  • Apr 13, 2010, 09:29 AM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by hheath541 View Post
    my guess is that it's crossed her mind, especially since she came here wanting confirmation of her feelings.





    Don't allow the girl to sleep with her father... That's sick
  • Apr 14, 2010, 03:02 PM
    SONOMAMA29

    Very strange, even gross, where do you sleep when she takes your spot?
  • Apr 14, 2010, 07:42 PM
    SSimp

    No way! It is ungodly and unhealthy for the child, you know things come up at night, and somtime men do not know it, very unsafe. She's at the of menstural, she is not a baby. Sleep alone!
  • Apr 14, 2010, 07:44 PM
    ohsohappy
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by SSimp View Post
    No way! it is ungodly and unhealthy for the child, you know things come up at night, and somtime men do not know it, very unsafe. She's at the of menstural, she is not a baby. Sleep alone!

    Tell me about it. I once saw something online about a woman who still breastfeeds her 8-year-old and her 12-year old daughters. THAT is messed up. That story was somewhere in Europe. England or something.
  • Apr 14, 2010, 07:47 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ohsohappy View Post
    Tell me about it. i once saw something online about a woman who still breastfeeds her 8-year-old and her 12-year old daughters. THAT is messed up. that story was somewhere in Europe. England or something.

    It is sick!
  • Apr 19, 2010, 01:11 PM
    Jake80

    I never had the choice of sleeping with my parents when I was 15. My aunt and uncle sometimes slept next to me but I had problems and a arm or a cuddle made them disappear. It is only wrong because of what people think and it is only wrong if it is not innocent. I snuggle up to my aunt and I'm 30 no I don't sleep with her by snuggle I mean having her put a arm around me. I often woke up when I was 15 to find them there but I was a scared young man who had loving people with me,
  • Apr 19, 2010, 01:18 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Jake80 View Post
    I never had the choice of sleeping with my parents when i was 15. My aunt and uncle sometimes slept next to me but i had problems and a arm or a cuddle made them disappear. It is only wrong because of what people think and it is only wrong if it is not innocent. I snuggle up to my aunt and i'm 30 no i dont sleep with her by snuggle i mean having her put a arm around me. I often woke up when i was 15 to find them there but i was a scared young man who had loving people with me,

    A fifteen year old girl has no business sleeping with her father.. bad dreams.. feeling insecure... wanting to snuggle it doesn't matter'. It is sick...
  • Apr 19, 2010, 01:21 PM
    Jake80

    In your mnds eye
  • Apr 19, 2010, 01:25 PM
    Kitkat22
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Jake80 View Post
    in your mnds eye





    Read all the other post before you start justifying anything. In "my minds eye" it is sick and perverted. If you think it's okay for a fifteen year old girl to sleep with her father.. you need help.

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