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I very stressed and having a very bad temper and I don`t want to run from my relationship but I don't want to hurt her? what should we do?

I've been with my boyfriend for three months. The other day I got angry and I turned my back to him while we slept. Now he is very confused and said that he needs time because that attitude makes him feel very bad, remembering bad situations with other girls, and he felt that being infatuated with me from 100 now he is in zero. What can I do to make him feel that I`m not like that, is the first time I did it actually with a partner but if he asked time what can I do. Also he says that we are friends now but we can still kiss and hug each other. That in one or two weeks he will try to clarify. Help!

What steps have you taken to work on your bad temper?

Focus on working on yourself. Have you considered taking anger management? Counselling? Therapy?

Once you've taken care of yourself, you will be in a better position to develop a stronger relationship with your significant other.

Well I suggest that you talk to him and explain your reaction. We all do mistakes ! So don't worry, if he really loves you he will understand.. wish you all the luck

Friends that can still kiss and hug? Haha and world peace is around the corner...

Seriously though, without knowing your age and relationship details, best advice I think is to ask him flat out do you think you guys can work whatever problem you have out and stay together, or does he just want to stay friends... if he goes the friends route, and you still have romantic feelings for him I would tell him that's not possible and do your best to not contact him

Sounds like he has security issues. Don't allow him to place you in a catergory with all the rest of his x girlfriends who have treated him badly. Quite honestly, he needs to not be so sensitive and get over it. It's a personal issue with him, nothing to do with you.

Tell him how you feel and tell him how you want his relationship to be. If he's going to cry over every reaction you give to him that is slightly negetive, then you have no business being with him. You don't need to think that you're in the wrong every time he does something you don't agree with.

As for the friends thing.. He wants to be friends with you after you turned your back on him while in bed? He seems kind of flakey and completely unsure of himself.

Not sure which of you has a bad temper since you seem to have posted under the same user name, or simply made a typo, but here is my take on things.

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Also he says that we are friends now but we can still kiss and hug each other. That in one or two weeks he will try to clarify. Help!

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Your behavior may have confused him, in which case talking is the answer, but to accept this kind of behavior from him is even worse. Its like he is punishing you and could explain why he has had two exes treat him badly by cheating on him. They were tired of his temper and controlling BS!! Why hug and kiss, instead of solving the problem?

You want help? Stop taking his crap, and tell him, friends don't hug and kiss, they talk like mature adults to solve their problems, not act like kids having a hissy fit. That goes for you both!!