My girlfriend has some problems with her family. She was raised by her grandmother, but she had died a while later in her life, and then my girlfriend started to live with her formal parents. Her grandmother was very kind to her, but her parents HATE her. They never wanted her, that's why she had to live with her grandmother, and since she is dead, her parents enjoy torturing her.

For example: Her mother would call her over for some help with the computer. Since she is not too computer literate, her mother would randomly start calling her an "idiot, moron, complete retard, and stupid" and pound her a few times. She would just cry.

I can't stand it. She cries every time I see her. I want her to be happy. I want to help her. I want her parents to stop. My girlfriend wants to die. She can't take it anymore. I don't her to kill herself. It's effecting me as well.

I can't call in any force, but I just want to find a possible way to get her parents to stop torturing her or get her out of it. Can anyone help me here?

By the way, she is 14, and I am 15. Yes we are young, but I don't care I love her.

Report to CPS or the agency in your area that does this.

If you really love your girlfriend then you need to report it. Why do you say you can't?

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Originally Posted by ohsohappy

If you really love your girlfriend then you need to report it. Why do you say you can't?

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She doesn't want me to. She won't let me get involved in this because I will most likely make things worse for her. Any other answers?

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Originally Posted by ShimmyTon

She doesn't want me to. She won't let me get involved in this because I will most likely make things worse for her. Any other answers?

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I have more questions first. What exactly would be worse for her if someone stepped in? Child protection services are there for a reason. If you're worried about risking your relationship as well then I think that should be the very LEAST of your worries. If her parents are as bad as you and she say they are then something needs to be done about it.

Well I was just informed her parents are trying to change. It's mostly her mother though, but the good news is that she is seeing a shrink. But it just keeps getting worse, but hopefully soon it will all end and both my girlfriend and her mother will be united as a family, and will be more happy with each other...

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Originally Posted by ShimmyTon

Well I was just informed her parents are trying to change. It's mostly her mother though, but the good news is that she is seeing a shrink. But it just keeps getting worse, but hopefully soon it will all end and both my girlfriend and her mother will be united as a family, and will be more happy with each other...

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You kind of leave some of the stuff you stay hanging in the middle of the thought.

What's mostly her mother? Who's seeing a shrink? If they're trying to change then why is it getting worse? And where is her dad?

It's mostly her mother that's torturing her. Mother is seeing the shrink. Mother just keeps enjoying torturing her, so it gradually just gets worse, and I'm not sure how long she's been with the shrink. Weird thing is the father doesn't do anything, except when he's drinking he actually starts talking to both of them; it's weird, really.

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It's mostly her mother that's torturing her. Mother is seeing the shrink. Mother just keeps enjoying torturing her, so it gradually just gets worse, and I'm not sure how long she's been with the shrink. Weird thing is the father doesn't do anything, except when he's drinking he actually starts talking to both of them; it's weird, really.

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How do you mean by torture? I mean, that is a form, harassment, but how has it been getting worse?

The mother often calls her over, and imiediately starts yelling at her, mostly verbally and little physically. My girlfriend told me that the torture is getting worse for her to even bare.

Can you give more detail? Have you witnessed it?

My friend is being verbally and sometimes physically abused by her mother. Here's a situation that happened just a few hours ago that pissed me off.

My friend found her baby niece, and when she picks the baby up, baby starts giggling and smiling playfully, but then my friend's mother comes in the room and snatches the baby from her hands, literally grabs the baby out of my friend's hands. Next thing you know, the mother is trying to play with the baby, then she starts crying.

A few minutes later, the mother of the baby says for my friend to take the baby, then my friend's mother says, "no, she's going to make the baby cry." then my friend cusses at her mom and leaves the room. Her mom comes in with the baby, and the baby is crying hard, and obviously the mother made that happen, and hands the baby to my friend, and he baby is still crying in her hands. Then my friend's mom says "see? look, she made the baby cry" then the mother of the baby takes the baby, and hands it back to my friend's mom.

That's not just it, everyday, my friend has to put up with her mom calling her a mistake, a retard, a 'B', and other means things for NO reason. And sometimes she slaps her. For NO reason. I'm sick of this. And don't ask why I care about my friend this much, its because she's my girlfriend and I'm looking out for her. I want her mom to stop, but not use any service to do the work. I need help, that's why I cam here. Any suggestions??

If there's abuse than the only thing you can do is call CPS.

You said you don't want to use a service, but there's really no other option, unless your friend is old enough and capable of moving out on her own to get away from her mother, which at 14 isn't possible.

Should be merged with this thread;

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/parent...er-463932.html

There's no reason for you to start multiple threads on the same topic. I've asked the mods to merge your threads on this topic.

The answers won't change, no matter how often you ask. It is what it is.