Hey I am 19yrs old and 26 weeks pregnant I am going out with a guy I met straight after me and my ex broke up but there is one problem he has a child from another girl and he played her while they where together and now I am afraid he is going to do the same to me I confronted him and asked him and he said he is sorry for what he did to her and he promises that it won't happen to me beause he honestly loves me but I just can't trust him I get so worried/angry now and than when I can't get hold of him and than I acuse him of cheating when he has a good reason for not answering the phone or coming over to me please help I just want to know am I over reacting or what?

You are 26 weeks pregnant. That's the issue. I'm sure he sees it too. Your emotions are way out of wack cause of the baby

I know but who says he won't do what he did to her to me

He does. Without good reason or evidence you cannot judge him for his past mistakes. You cannot make him earn your trust, it should be granted. Trust is granted, but can be taken away. That's the nice thing about trust.

If he says he won't, for now you have to believe him. At least until he proves you wrong for doing so. I know it sucks to get hurt, but if you love him and you are in a relationship with him then you are taking that risk. And in life with no risk there is no reward and the greater the risk the greater the reward.

Life is a gamble no matter what you do and that includes trusting the person you are with. You put a coin into a machine and hope that it spits out the gumball, and 99% of the time it would, but by putting your coin in the machine you invest your trust that it will deliver what you paid for. Sometimes the machine breaks and there is nothing you can do about it. You can choose to put another coin in, or you can go to a different machine. But if the item you are after is worth another coin, you're going to put that second coin in. just don't do it a third time cause then you strt looking like an idiot.

Does that make sense, if not I will make it much more clear

Yes it does make sense thank you I think I shall just give him a chance and let the pats deal with the past THANK YOU DEARLy... :)

Hey no problem. I love to help. I hope you enjoy your relationship and get everything from life that you can get. And great luck with the baby, congrats mom ;)

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Now I am confused

Why, if it was the... I am sorry. I wrote to a different post and accidentally put it here lol. So yeah, sorry, wasn't watching what I was doing

How do mean he wants me to change for him

LOL o OK don't worry I understand o ja and thanks once again

You have not healed properly, as jumping from one guy to another without proper healing in between is a bad decision. Given your pregnancy, and the very real changes your body, and mind are going through. Then I read your other post.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/pregna...dy-463604.html

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but unsure of baby daddy the reason for this is because i broke up with my ex and a week after i hooked up with a new guys which we got busy and a month after i found out i am pregnant I think it's the new guys baby because when me and my ex slept together I just finished my period

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You moved way to fast to even know this guy well. What's done is done though, and your focus has to be on having a healthy baby, and doing a blood test for everyone's sake after the child is born. For now, you can only be honest with them both and say you really don't know! That's better than being caught in a lie later.

Um... you are six months pregnant, and having boyfriend problems?

What about the baby. The last thing on your mind in my opinion, should be a boyfriend.

As has been said, you need to find out who the father is, and establish child support for starters. Provide a safe, loving and nurturing environment for your baby, without introducing another man/boy into the picture who will be playing daddy.

Bringing a baby into this world at age 19 is going to be hard enough, let alone adding problems such as the boyfriend having a past that includes another baby.

The only one you can rely on right now is yourself. Stressing about being with a guy who doesn't sound like the type of person who will see you through a preganancy, and support you afterward, isn't good for you, or the baby.

I hope you will get checked for STD's as well, and realize that whatever actions and decisions you make now, will affect the life of this child you are having.

Good luck.

If you constantly nag your new current boyfriend about not trusting him when he has shown no evidence to you not to trust him. This will push the guy away and make him cheat that much faster, just because he is getting sick of your nagging.

I really should look at other posts before giving advice. But I still think all of the advice given, including mine, are good to go off.