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  • Apr 6, 2010, 09:37 PM
    spawnzer
    Girlfriend want to take a break during the summer and i dunnot how to react
    First of all, I apologize for my bad english, it isn't my first language so you'll probably find a lot of stupid mistakes^^.

    Here's my problem:
    Last week, my girlfriend of six month told me that she might want to take a break during the summer because the fact that she was afraid that she could make a mistake that would hurt me bad(she party/dance a lot ) and that she wants to do some "experience that you must do when you're young and that i could take her back at the end of the summer if i want to.

    She already decided that it would be the day after our prom night (we're both 17). Yea i know that i said that she might wanna take a break but i know her, she woulnd have told this to me if she wasnt 99% sure that its what she wants.

    I dont know how to react about all this.
    I'm pretty sure that all this will change her and that things wont be the same.

    Still i dont wanna beg her because that i want her to be happy and if it require me to leave her life forever then it's what i'm going to do, even if it breaks my heart.

    Oh and i never gave her any "restriction" except the usual (no kissing, no grinding, etc).

    If you want some additional details ask me

    thank you,
    Spawnzer
  • Apr 6, 2010, 10:14 PM
    talaniman

    This is simple. The day after prom, you lift her restrictions and tell her have a good time this summer, because you will too. Kiss her good bye, and have a great summer.

    That's it.
  • Apr 6, 2010, 11:39 PM
    amicon

    Let her have her break-it works two ways,so go enjoy your summer.
  • Apr 7, 2010, 02:48 AM
    Showme_urmove

    Hey Spawnzer! I don't know if you want a long term relationship with her or just someone to have fun with.
    But I will give you an advice of each one.
    LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP
    If this is what you want with her, Get ready for ALOT of heart aches. Ask yourself, If she feels like this now what makes you think she's not going to feel like this in the future. She doesn't love you the way you love her. Your young, got your heart broken and you know now what kind of girl you want and don't want.
    IF you do want to have fun with her, just give her what she wants and after make her you booty call. Easy and done. Make sure you have lots of girls on the side and make her one of your ducks.

    Don't make her the reason why you have one of the worst summer you ever had, You can't get that back and don't waist it cause of her. Enjoy bro and if you need more advice just post it here lots of good people here are welling to help.
  • Apr 7, 2010, 06:05 AM
    spawnzer

    Thanks to everyone, I'll take note of your answer for sure

    I talked to her this morning and she told me that she loves me and want to spend her life with me but is afraid to "loose her youth'' and it's why she wanna live her teenage life this summer and come back with me for a long term relationship if i still want her.

    And i used to be her best friend and she told me that if i wanted to i could still be this during the summer but i dont know if i should.

    Yea i'll still want talk to her but i'm affraid thats she'll give me details 'bout her "experience".

    And she also told me that if I wanted to we could be each other booty call but it's not what I want. Yea I love to sleep with her but I don't want to be only the guy she call when she want to (but still I prefer that she call me then that she call an other guy^^).

    But the thing I dunnot what to do about is how to react for the next 3months or so. Should I forgot about this till there or?
  • Apr 7, 2010, 06:09 AM
    Xan-Kriegor

    Try to stay calm and do not panic you'll have a lot more girlfriends in your life except if she's hot.
  • Apr 7, 2010, 06:10 AM
    Devorameira

    I agree - let her have her break. You need to make it perfectly clear to her that you are also on a break and you will also be out partying and dating other girls. Then you need to actually go out and date!

    Who knows - maybe while you're out there dating you'll find Ms. Perfect, as the girl you're seeing now isn't her.

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