I am a muslim and like one girl a lot and want to marry her ,I already asked that girl about this and she said she likes me too,may be I can write that we love each other a lot and have a very fare and clean relation,we both dailly seek each other from ALLAH in our prayers ,but my problem is that I am already engaged with some other girl and I dailly feel I am deceiving her,I tried my best to keep engaged relation going on but the girl I love cries dailly for me and is not able to carry her life happily with out me,we both like each other a lot and I feel personally if do marriage with the girl I am currently engaged I may not be able to do justice with her as I love some one else already,so not to spoil three lives ,I want to break my engagement and want to marry one whome I like a lot and who may not be to live happily with out me.. I want to know what will be the right path for me,should I break engagement and save an innocent one or should I go for marriage with whome I am engaged and let some one innocent to cry for me whole life.one thing is that before engagement I already had love and affection with that girl but may be at some point in the past I felt little greedy and got engaged with another rich girl but then after some time I felt I deceived the one whome I Loved in the past and now I am seeking pardon from ALLAH for that and want to marry my actual love.. can U please suggest me what to do.. Dr. sahab I am a BDS doctor by profession and I really kow what I am asking to you,I am very much involved emotionally and always offer nemaaz but something sm where I am feeling unrestfull to know what the right is please suggest.. thanks in advance..

While you are confused as to what you need to do, the most important priority in my opinion, is to stop keeping two women interested at the same time. It isn't fair to either of them.

If you do not love the person you are engaged to, break off the engagement, and let her find someone who does love her.

If you love your girlfriend, tell her that you do not know what to do, and until such time that you do, you will not be involved with either woman.

I have no idea who Dr. Sahab is, you don't explain that part, I presume it has something to do with your faith to which I am totally unfamiliar.

But from a gal in Canada, stringing two women along at the same time is just the wrong thing to do, regardless of religious stripes.

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Originally Posted by Jake2008

While you are confused as to what you need to do, the most important priority in my opinion, is to stop keeping two women interested at the same time. It isn't fair to either of them.

If you do not love the person you are engaged to, break off the engagement, and let her find someone who does love her.

If you love your girlfriend, tell her that you do not know what to do, and until such time that you do, you will not be involved with either woman.

I have no idea who Dr. Sahab is, you don't explain that part, I presume it has something to do with your faith to which I am totally unfamiliar.

But from a gal in Canada, stringing two women along at the same time is just the wrong thing to do, regardless of religious stripes.

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I agree with you jake but the problem is that ours is a conservative society to break engagement wd a girl gives her a bad image in the society otherwise I wld have broke the engagement.Actually jake DR Zakir is a big muslim scholar and since marriage is a religious issue that's y I had asked this question to zakir.u are candian and a very liberal minded in fact I wld say the rightous and open minded person and really what U have written is all right.but I am litle worried about the girl I am engaged to I fear that the people shuld not look her down then.and I never want that she wld perish because of me then.

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and I never want that she wld perish because of me

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I am not sure what that means, I hope you don't mean literally perish.

There is not anything I can offer unfortunately that would solve this problem for you.

I'm sorry that this situation you are in is so difficult.

Good luck to you.