Estranged Father Trying To Connect w Daughter
OK this is not an easy thing for me, but I want to try and find help here. I had a daughter back in 1991. The mother and I were in love, but I left about a year into our relationship after our daughter was born. Back then I was a self centered, antisocial idiot and did what I thought was best. I left without a trace and never looked back. I was just a self centered, crazy little man with abandonment issues and fear of intimacy. Anyway I have met my daughter on Facebook (19 now) and I tried to let her know that who I was is not who I am today. We chat here and there, but when ever the conversation gets personal, she shuts down and steps back. It's like we go forward and backwards all the time.
I want to move forward with her and she kind of freaks when I ask the questions. So I guess Im asking...
Should I keep at these baby steps with her or am I not asking her the right questions? Sorry if Im confusing, but Im kind of messed up about it.