Ask Me Help Desk - SEX problems

Im 30 and my girlfriend is 25 we have been together 5 month now and we found out that she is 3 months pregnant . We have had a great time together so far we can sit a talk for hours and hours .
With in the last month her sex drive has slowed down a lot.before we had sex every day some times 3, 4, 5 times a day and it was that really good sex we would knock the mattress off the bed every time yeah. We are very fit good looking people I would say.I try doing and telling her sweet things all the time but now we have sex 1 to 2 times a week only because I ask for it and that make me feel bad and upset like she is falling out of love with me .whitch makes problems for us .I talk to her a lot about this and my needs for sex.she tells me she loves me more then ever and she is very happy with me .she is not sure why her sex drive has droped we think it is the baby.she tries to make me happy by give it to me but she don't get in to it like before at all .she tells me I'm very good in bed . And now I think about sex a lot more and it seems to be very very important to me. I'm a faithfull man . And I never would think about other women even when they would hit on me it was eazy for me to turn them down with out them crossing my mind .I will continue to be faithfull to her .but now I see women and think about sex with them and I don't like the way I have been thinking this way .we talk about getting married but I know we need to work this out first. I know its crazy but its seems like it kills me to see her everyday and to go with out sex

If sex is the most important thing to you then this relationship will not last.

She's pregnant, her hormones are going psycho, losing your sex drive is very common. When I was pregnant with my first child I didn't even want to be hugged or kissed from my 3rd month until after I gave birth. It happens.

With my second child I couldn't get enough sex, in fact, my husband finally said he couldn't keep up and we'd have to slow down.

It depends on the woman and the pregnancy. She could go through this for the entire pregnancy and beyond. She's your partner, she's carrying your child, so show some patience and respect for what she's going through.

Maybe it's time to read up on pregnancy and what changes her body is going through and will go through until she gives birth and after she gives birth.

Realize that things change as people grow so, like I said in the beginning, if you're only in it for the sex then this relationship is doomed.

OK man you need to relax. I am sorry but 4 to 5 times a day, did you really think that was going to last? I'd be in heaven if it happened that much for me lol.

I suggest being patient with her, she just found out that she is carrying and you are demanding way too much from her. She is probably very stressed out and scared. She could even blame sex with you for the futures issues that this could possibly cause. On top of this women have a lot to think about when they are pregnant out of marriage, like do I keep it? Do I put it up for adoption? Am I fit to be a mother? What if this guy takes off.
I mean you guys are so early into the relationship and it really sucks that she got pregnant now but you got to do what you got to do man. Step it up, be a man, and be there for her.

By the way, if you are having sex even once a week and thinking about having sex with another women, you got a problem you need to be checking out. Like a sexual addiction. I understand that you are not getting all that you want but after that baby comes it is going to be far less I promise you.
I got my girlfriend pregnant after only 4 months (found out at that time she was 3 months pregnant!) that means that I hit it the right way on one of the first shots. Not that that mattered lol. In an instant I knew full well that I was going to be there for that child always. I wanted to be a dad so much and finally I had become one... almost. We lost our baby after 4.5 months. I only knew I was a dad for two f*ing weeks. It was the hardest loss I have ever faced and just after I told my grandma and grandpa, whom I love and respect and strive hard to impress, that they were going to be great grandpartents. I was heart broken and it took a whole lot to get me out of that depression. But we worked through it, we survived and are together today. The one thing I will never forget is that I was a father, a real father, even if it was only for a couple of months. I love that baby, I told it goodnight every night, kissed her stomach first thing when I saw her (which made her kind of jealous lol) and I sang to it. Only to find out that at least the last time I said goodnight was the last of my voice it heard.

My point is, cherish it, and make sure she knows that you are going to be a great sturdy man. Make sure she knows how much you love her and that no matter what happens you will always work as hard as possible to stay madly in love with her. But give her a break man, this is heavy OK.

I need help not her ill be there for her no matter what do I do about what's going through my head about other women and sex all the time

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Originally Posted by agoodguy

i need help not her ill be there 4 her no matter what what do i do about whats going through my head about other women and sex all the time

You get help, therapy, counseling, before you do something you'll regret.

That's the only thing you can do because you obviously can't control this on your own.

You are expierencing what I like to call booty withdrawl. You are used to getting a whole lot of booty but now its being extremely reduced. Just like smoking the les you do the harder it is to not do more. However like smoking, the longer you go, the easier it'll get. The more you but back, the less you will need. It is just going to take time to get used to it that's all.

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Originally Posted by Larken85

you are expierencing what I like to call booty withdrawl. you are used to getting a whole lot of booty but now its being extremely reduced. Just like smoking the les you do the harder it is to not do more. However like smoking, the longer you go, the easier it'll get. The more you but back, the less you will need. It is just going to take time to get used to it thats all.

I think your right I like the way you put it thanks bro but man this sh** sucks because the booty is so good:)

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Originally Posted by agoodguy

i think your right i like the way you put it thanks bro but man this sh** sucks because the booty is so good:)

Trust me, you've got it better then she does. If you think going without sucks then try being pregnant for 9 months. :rolleyes:

Really hard to feel sorry for you right now. Not hard at all to feel sorry for her.

Good luck.

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Trust me, you've got it better then she does. If you think going without sucks then try being pregnant for 9 months. :rolleyes:

Really hard to feel sorry for you right now. Not hard at all to feel sorry for her.

Good luck.

I don't want any one to feel sorry for me just need help working out my ways of looking at this thank you you really help

Yeah she is right. Your girl is going through heck and its only going to get worse. Hope you're prepared to weather a few horrible storms. You'll learn to go without for a bit. Like altenweg said earlier her hormones are going crazy. Who knows, maybe tomorrow she'll want more sex than ever. When we found out that my girl was pregnant. She went into sexual overdrive. And that was the best week long vacation ever. Wow. I know what you mean, when its good its great. But at the moment it isn't so just relax and eventually things will get back to normal or at least close to it.

If you're going crazy now with not getting enough sex, it will get much worse guy, as her pregnancy progresses.

You haven't known her long, but I suggest you see more than the need for sex right now, as your support, and love is more important than knocking boots. This is a very fragile time for her, and not just physically, but emotionally, and mentally as well, so its about more than just your own needs now.