I'm married with three children. We paid off the property and my name is not on the house or the investment property. I talked to my husband and asked him to add my name to the deed because I worked all these years and contributed to the bills as well

My husband told me that he will not add my name on the deed but will transferred into my children's names. Can he do this? Do I have a say in this? He indicates that if we were to divorce in the future. He will leave with empty hand along with me. He states that he will starts all over and works and I should do the same.

I'm scare to think about it, what if I'm in the 50s and have no where to live. I worked hard to raise my children and want to have a stable home for my old age. Am being unreasonable? I want to be protected that I have a home to go to. I do not want to run around to find an apartment for me.

I'm confuse...

Contact an attorney in your area, get together all receipt where you help pay for the investment.

If you are in a community property state, then you would get a share of the property.

What I'm more concerned is why your husband refuses to do this. While is normal to ask that your name be on the deeds, his reaction is not normal. Which makes me believe a divorce is not a remote possibility. So you really should consult an attorney to make sure of where you stand.

I don't assume everyone who posts here lives in the US. I am wondering if you live in a culture that is more traditional than mine. I know in parts of the US, your husband would seem either somewhat arrogant or mistrusting not to put both your names on deeds. But if he failed to do so and you divorced, you would still be entitled to half the accumulated estate regardless of names on deeds. But in more traditional cultures it is not unheard of to routinely leave the wife out of financial matters with no ill will intended. Cultural context here would be nice to know, I think? Like where do you live and how common is this kind of an arrangement? Also I am curious about the age of your children because it raises the question to me about what if he should die and the house is in the name of minors, what then?

At least here in the US, he can tell you anything he wants, and he can threaten to do anything he wants,

If you are already talking about divorce, you need to file for it before he transfers the property. You in a divorce should be intitled if not to the house and property, but to some of the value of that house and property.

And if you are married, and he does not want to let y ou have 1/2 ownership then you have some serious marriage issues and need to look into it.

I would advice a trip right now, not a trip tomorrow to a divorce attorney

I don't know anything about this situation, but I found a site that might be helpful:
http://www.directlex.com/
It looks like you can ask questions. At least it would get you started. Good Luck!

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I don't know anything about this situation, but I found a site that might be helpful

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While there are times that it is practical or necessary to refer an asker to another site, I don't think that's valid in this situation. The OP has gotten good advice and we should be promoting THIS site not competing sites.

Well excuse me ScottGem. I didn't realize giving info on where to find some info elsewhere online was not acceptable on this site. I was just trying to help. And by the way, I found that answer given on a previous askmehelpdesk question from April and May '05.

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Originally Posted by movies4megan

Well excuse me ScottGem. I didn't realize giving info on where to find some info elsewhere online was not acceptable on this site. I was just trying to help. And by the way, I found that answer given on a previous askmehelpdesk question from April and May '05.

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As I said, there are times when its applicable. I don't know what the situation was in the other thread so I can't say whether it was applicable then or not.

Its very nice of you to want to help, but seeing as how you admitted that you didn't know anything about this situation, why not leave it to the people who do? If no one had answered the question after a day or so, then it would have been appropriate. Posting a response just for the sake of responding is frowned on. I'm sure you will find plenty of questions where you have the knowledge to contribute rather then sending askers elsewhere.