What financial rights do I have after divorcing a us citizen residing in California , if I am a non resident , non citizen and the marriage took place in the middle east ?
Also do I have rights in his 401k ?

What was said in your divocre dercee ?

I still did not get a divorce , still in the procedures , what difference does it make ?

It's this simply - the divorce decree will answer all of your questions. Without having a far better picture of the entire situation we are just guessing.