I want to save my relationship more than anything else in the world please help me...
... um okay, I've never gone as far as to ask for the help from strangers... but I'm pretty despite to save this relationship.
I'm 19 years old. I've been going out with a girl for over 3 years... we met in high school and started dating when school let out... we went out for 2 years in high school and now we're going to different colleges.
We would be so happy to spend time together, we always had something to talk about (or we would just not talk and just stay on the phone <3) and we had a healthy sex life.
I can only visit her on holidays when she can come home or like once a month ( I don't have a lot of money to see her all the time) we used to talk on the phone for 4 hours a night and sometimes I would get on the computer to chat with her into the early hours of the morning. We had been planning to get married for about a year now... shes been way more enthusiastic than me but I'm happy don't get me wrong. I mean this is the girl that I want to spend my life with.
About 3 weeks ago everything got randomly weird... she told me she was feeling bad and didn't want to talk that night... so I told her I hope she would get better and good night. Then things got worse... she would only talk to me for like 5-30 minutes a night and then she started saying she needed space. She then said that I was boring and she didn't like me online.
I didn't sleep for 4 nights straight and have been a wreak. She goes back and forth saying that things are okay and then they are not. Then about a week ago she finally confessed she liked this guy on a game we play... some guy that lives really far away from us. I asked if she still liked me and she said yes. But she spends more time with him online then with me... I don't know how to compete with that... When I call her she gets angry and sometimes she is happy. We went on a date the other night and we had a great time and then she wanted to go home real quick because I think she wanted to be with him...
In fact the week before that (before I knew about him and her) I came all the way to see her and we had a good time and she came on to me hard and then said it didn't feel right... she did the same thing the other day so I don't know...
When ever I call her she sounds like she's having to do a task. Like she doesn't enjoy talking to me... and she hangs up on me abruptly now... she says she loves me when I say it(most of the time) and she still kisses me (sometimes or she'll avoid my kiss)
I don't know what to do... If I give her space I feel like she'll only talk to him and fall in love with him... but If I bug her all the time she'll just yell at me like usual...
I want to spend my life with this girl but I don't know what's going through her head... She has huge mood swings but nothing like this... the last thing that happened like this was a few months ago she said that I wasn't going anywhere in life and that she loved me but didn't want to be with me.
So I went to college to make something out of myself and she started dating me again... that was like in November and sense then everything was just like it was before... everything was a perfect love bliss.
so... I don't know if she's bored with our relationship because we can't discover anything or what... we were so happy and if anyone has any advice I would greatly appropriate it... I just want everything back to the way it was :( I am in so much pain... we've always been so happy I don't know what to do :( We wanted to get married this summer and she still brings up our honeymoon sometimes but she doesn't want to get married now... its like she has a split personality... we wanted to have kids we had even named and I've never been happier than I was with her...
I'm trying to get her to spend time with me at the park sometime this week because its spring break... :(
if you need any more details tell me... I don't know much about how this site works though... I've been crying for weeks please someone help me :<