I've been liking this guy for about a year and a half now. I'm 14. He's one of my close friends, we talk everyday. I love him with strong passion. But I can never tell if he loves me. He's just so confusing! One day I'll think he's totally into me, but the next I'll think he doesn't like me. I'm a very shy person, so if you're going to answer ask him, no. I'm just too shy and am afraid I will ruin what we have, if we have anything. That's some background on the issue. So about three weeks ago, he got a new girlfriend. She is very smart, and I am considered, well, not very smart. She is pretty, I don't think I am pretty. They love each other, and I don't want to ruin it, but I also want him! But I want him to be happy. Today they took it to the next level. Every time I was in the hall, they hugged each other. Do you know how awkward and heartbroken I feel to walk by that scene? I would like some advice, I'm just really confused on what to do right now.

He's taken girl. Sorry, but you can't have him unfortunately. You just have to accept it.

It must be extremely hard to walk by and take that kind of scene in.

You have a close friendship with him, and that's valuable to you. You want him to be happy, but you want him to be happy with you.

It might be easier said than done, but focus on yourself. You compare yourself to your friend's new girlfriend and point out things that she has that you don't feel like you do. The only person you should be in competition with is yourself. Why not start doing things that will help you feel like the best you can be?

Hey,girl! The first thing I would like to tell you is don't say "She is very smart, and I am considered, well, not very smart. She is pretty, I don't think I am pretty." because 'BEAUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER' and its quite true. Maybe he took you as just a friend.so, I would not tell you to ask him, because it may or will end the 'something' which is there between you two.so be happy that the one whom you like is at least your friend because many people in this world don't have that luck too.! so be satisfied.if OUR LORD GOD wants, then he will be surely your's and only your's and no one can stop that,not even THAT CONSIDERED PRETTY AND SMART GIRL.

First of don't put yourself down. You are fourteen.. you have so much to look forward too. This is the time you need to focus on what you want to do in the future. Boys will come and go and when you meet the right one you will be old enough and smart enough to know if he is the right one.

Please focus on your studies and stay just friends with this guy.
Who knows what will happen in the future? I'll bet you are just as pretty and smart as this other girl. Show yourself you are smart by bringing your grades to where you want them to be. Don't put yourself down. God created you just the way he wanted you to be. Use your head to get more confidence and let your heart lead you when your older. YOU CAN DO IT:)

I'm sure you are just as pretty and smart as "she" is... you just don't realize it yet.

Sorry, but he is already taken. The best thing you can do is move on and find another boy that you are interested in.

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Originally Posted by Devorameira

I'm sure you are just as pretty and smart as "she" is...you just don't realize it yet.

Sorry, but he is already taken. The best thing you can do is move on and find another boy that you are interested in.

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I hope your self confidence improves. Don't let anyone make you feel small. When I was young.. I had the same problem. If you feel ugly and you feel as though your not as smart as others that will make your life miserable'

I had wonderful parents who instilled the meaning of self worth and liking yourself into my head. Don't let other people have the power to make you feel ugly or stupid. Believe me they will if they can. People love to hurt other people and I have found it's usually because they don't feel good about themselves or there is something missing intheir lives.


You are you! You are here on this earth for a reason. It's up to you to figure out what your purpose in life is. Don't let let a boy or another girl bring you down. You are somebody!