Getting over my "x" after we dated 3 times
I have tried everything I could, but my situation is kind of bad.
Iam still young and have college before me
The facts:
0. we practically dated for 1.5 years
1. we dated 3 times in that time short break ups, and if broken up, "best friends with benifits" and close physically, emotinally and spiritually, addictive but unhealthy.
2. broke up in April
3. was cheated on
4. she led me on all summer
5. finally stopped all comunication
6. still have strong attachment
7.past mont things have been better
8. feelings are gone
9. care is still there
10. She has moved on, found another guy
11. I have met another girl and its great
12. Still have hurt seeing her everyday with him
13. Have nottalked for 1 month
14. Want to move on and be happy
14. Want to be with this ither girl without any feelings for my past relationship
15. Strong christian
16. Seeking any advice
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Originally Posted by apollo
I have tried everything I could, but my situation is kinda bad.
Iam still young and have college before me
The facts:
0. we practically dated for 1.5 years
1. we dated 3 times in that time short break ups, and if broken up, "best friends with benifits" and close physically, emotinally and spiritually, addictive but unhealthy.
2. broke up in april
3. was cheated on
4. she led me on all summer
5. finally stopped all comunication
6. still have strong attachment
7.past mont things have been better
8. feelings are gone
9. care is still there
10. she has moved on, found another guy
11. I have met another girl and its great
12. still have hurt seeing her everyday with him
13. have nottalked for 1 month
14. want to move on and be happy
14. want to be with this ither girl without any feelings for my past relationship
15. strong christian
16. seeking any advice
Well see guys I just want to say thank you for your intense encouragement, and this information is very valuable and very sustaining to remind me to know what to do.
It is just the hardest thing ever, I don't understand why.
We are in the same school together, everyday I see her, and I do not want to, I wish I was not there.
It discourages me so much, and it really should not, my friends tell me, "man you are so not over her, cause you should not let that get to you" for some reason, when I'm tired and afraid this gets to me more than anything.
Yea I truly believe God can help me, I have made many mistakes and have reevaluated my life and have made changes but nothing keeps what is there away'
So then it leaves you guys with many thoughts and beliefs and answers.
I have tried so many, I try so hard to pray and do it myself, than I know I should not it myself, or should I ( speaking from a Biblical standpoint )
Just the other day I saw her new guy doing some pretty flower "oooo I like you a lot" thing, and it seems they are so going to date now, naturally I have this territory thing within me that gets mad just a little, and I see her smile, and gosh darnit I want to smile to and be happy for her, but she looks at me and has this most confused sad face, and I hate it. We dated so close that you know when you look at each other or are within feet of each other you can tell what the other one is practically thinking. But I wish I could look at her and see what all bad she has done to me, and know I can do better, that is always the original way to get over someone, always know you are better, but I am so pessimistic, my life has nothing to show affection to me to make me feel any better, and there is no comfort.
Man, see that is what is hard, I do the exact thing by thinking about her as if I was to talk to her, and it's a constant downward spiral that is screwing me up.
This other girl I met and are really great friends with right now sees that, and I like this girl a lot and she does too, but I know right now for us two dating or anything close to it is just not safe in our circumstances, she sees me and how I feel about my past, but she has so much patience.
So I leave with the thoughts of why do I struggle with such a stupid thing, millions of people are dying out there, billions of people are poor and starving, my heart of compassion is torn apart by this drama, and more over, I know this (worry about my past) is not good for me in the long run.
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Thanks for anything... :)