Me and my wife have been together for 10 years. Now she has these friends she kicks around with and I see her changing. I don't mind her going for drinks, and all of that but now she want to go to a strip club. Is this a sign for me to see or is it a figment of my imagination? What I want to know is am I reading too much into it or should I see these as signs she want to go her own way and be single again? Tell me what's up you.

Hello JJ,

Have you mentioned this to her about your concerns?

Do all guys that go to strip clubs want to be single again? Nah, it's just a night out to be a little naughty. Talk to her about it, it's the only way to know.

I would not worry about the male strip club by itself if she goes once with girl friends, and it is juts for fun.
But I will worry about her clubing and drinking with her girlfriend, because she will eventually put herself in the spot, who will be hit by bunch of drunken men in the club. If she is drunk, she may make silly incident. It is not good.
How often does she go out? How much does she drink? Why doesn’t she include you in the outing on and off?

I personally never hang out with girl friend to drink without husband while I was in marrriage, because I do not want my husbnd do it without me either.

I sugget You need to give her some guideline, instead of left over.

I think she's just having fun with girlfiends. I think I'm probably right in saying too that very few women go to strip clubs for anything other than a good giggle. They're really cheesy and corny and its just a bit of fun. However I think you should speak to her about how you feel. She may have no idea.

Get her plenty of bills, to stuff in their draws, and tell her have a great time. Don't even worry about it.

Hi, jj?
I might not help,but I am majoring in Marrige counsleing (spp)
And I would love to help::

You should talk to her, (1on1) and make it clear to her, what your worry's are. Have you been hanging with your friends? If not, you should, not really to get back at her. But just to understand she's having fun. But The main point is, confront her.

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Originally Posted by jjennings59

Me and my wife have been together for 10 years. Now she has these friends she kicks around with and I see her changing. I don't mind her going for drinks, and all of that but now she want to go to a strip club. Is this a sign for me to see or is it a figment of my imagination? What I want to know is am I reading to much into it or should I see these as signs she want to go her own way and be single again? Tell me whats up yall.

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I don't think the strip club is the problem. I think it is the perception that she is changing. You don't mind her going to places where people actually interact, but you do worry about her going to what amounts to a 'show'. That seems a bit backward to me.

In what ways is she 'changing'? Are the 'changes' creating a rift between the two of you? What are you both doing to keep the foundation of the marriage strong? Do you have date nights? Do you do the little things that show how much you care about each other like a quick caress, love notes, saying 'I love you' just because it's what you feel, etc.

I think you need to talk with your wife about your concerns. Remember to listen to what she has to say, too. Work together to guide the changes that you both are going through into better supports for your relationship.