Hi I'm hoping that you can help me, I was with my ex partner for 5 years until suddenly he just got up one morning and left me, I was devastated. Then I find out that 3 weeks later he is seeing someone else and sometimes he would call round to my house just to see how I'm doing and if I am seeing anybody else and also bragging to me about how happy he is with his new girlfriend and that he is having a new car stuff like that even though the 5 years we were together he couldn't be arsed to get his driving test done and now all of sudden he has passed his test. I didn't have no contact from him until about a month ago whe he just phoned out of the blue so I answered and he was asking me if I was still living on my own, he knew that I had got a new car and everything. I had something of his and he needed it so we met up and it was really nice, he said that he was pleased to see me and that we should meet up again for another chat and I agreed. So a week later I text him and I asked if he still wanted to meet up again and he was keen so we did that night and we ended up sleeping together, he came on to me and I know that I shouldn't of responded but my feelings for him are so strong and it was the best sex ever it brought everything back. Now I just feel used cause he has gone back to her and she prob doesn't know what's gone on. He has text me to see if I'm OK but nothing else. Should I just forget about him? I can't see myself with anyone else. Please help me your answers will be greatly appreciated.

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Should I just forget about him?

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YES, absolutely.

I think you already know the answer to your question.

To continue to see him while he is not single, is the wrong thing to do. He has already used you for sex, and gone home to his girlfriend.

He probably did that with her, and went home to you, and that didn't work out very well either.

He is not a man who can be trusted, and you should not be allowing yourself to cross those lines with him.

My advice is to not initiate anything with him; consider the relationship over now, before you go through heartache again.

Be strong, and do what is best for you. Don't allow yourself to fall into the trap of thinking that because there is still a strong physical attraction there, that that means a relationship will work out.

You will only be setting yourself up for disappointment.

He probably cheated on you with the current gf-now he cheats on her with you-what a prince-NOT.

Save yourself future heartbreak and never speak to him again.

He is a player,let him play his silly games somewhere
Else.

Well, if good sex is enough for you, and you have no standards by which you want to be treated, then he is your guy... well, yours whenever he deems fit, needs a fix

Sit down and talk to him about what was wrong in the relationship. What's been fixed. What needs fixing. etc. if he balks at this... well... apparently its about easy, familiar, prohibited sex.

And that's fine, if that's what you are looking for... but I'm thinking its not.

Say goodbye to him, he's not worth it

You need to stop all contact with him and move on. Seeing him just stirs the feelings back up, so you need to cut it out NOW.

Even if he were to suddenly want you back, would you really want him? You know that he's untrustworthy, is a cheat, and is a user. Those aren't very good qualities in any man.

Go your own way and find your own new fellow that is trustworthy and who is only interested in you.

Let me tell you objectively as friend.

He left you, bragged about his new girlfriend, and showed up & slept with you, but he is still with his girlfriend. You should not sleep with ex who has girlfriend, but you did and learned the lesson now. You still have strong feelings for him, and might hope this amazing sex could bring him back. However, it does not work that way as you hope. You were not the only one in this situation, and will not be the last one either.

Don't you know the world famous phrase, which was passed generation to generation?

Sex with ex is the best ever!

You know him, he knows your body & how to please you exactly, you missed him so much, and you were happy to be in his arms again, this was what you wanted so badly in your head since he broke up with you, on and on and on... That's why it was so amazing for you.

In his side, he informed you clearly he had girlfriend, but you allowed him to do it without any obligation, and he jumped & enjoyed your familiar body for free… He should say thank you.

You guys had a great booty call.
Please do not mix with your feelings over this booty call. What you should do was, bite your tongue, reserve yourself VERY HARD, and should not give in the temptation if you wanted him to come back to you. But you could not. From no on, it will be the same over and over again. He successfully downgraded you as booty call, and he will contact you when he likes to taste it again.

In your side, you should not feel bad about this booty call either. You do not want this man nyway, who cheats a girlfriend one after another girlfriend. You should not allow him to coming back in your life ever. You had a great finale, and it was amazing. You deserved it for the last time. You did not loose anything.

It is really THE TIME for you to move on.
Do not look back, and save yourself for better relationship, and just keep moving on. Please do not response from now on.
I wish your best luck! You seem very sweet girl.

Thank you to everyone for your advice it really helped, can't thank you people enough :) x

Good-go enjoy your life-without him.
Take care.