My fiancé and I have been together for almost 3 years and we have a 11 month old son together! Well when our son was 5 months old he broke my heart when he cheated on me! Since then I have tried so hard to trust him but he is always getting mad at me when I check up on him to make sure he is where he says he is. And he gets mad at me when I call him more than once! He still goes out every weekend and leaves me and the baby at home! He never wants to be here but wants me to believe he is not cheating anymore. I don't know what to do! He went out the other night and I told him if he left we would leave and he said okay! I'm constantly catching him in lies and it is killing me! He doesn't care if he hurts me and don't care if I cry! Please someone... what should I do?

How old are the two of you?
He sounds very immature,and he lies and cheats.

It seems you are literally left holding the baby.

Unless he is willing to seriously discuss your problems and work to rebuild your relationship,maybe go to couples counciling, I don't think this is going to work.

Being a single mum can be tough,but you may be better off without him.

I am 19 and he is 21! He never wants to talk about or problems!

Take your lost NOW! He is not worth your straggle and pain. He doesn't care about you and the baby, the longer you stay with him the more you are going to end up being dependent on him.

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he still goes out every weekend and leaves me and the baby at home!

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His not being a man and owning up to his responsibility. He believes that he can do what he is doing and you will not leave him cause you 2 have a kids together and that you need him.

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he went out the other night and I told him if he left we would leave and he said okay! I'm constantly catching him in lies and it is killing me!

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He doesn't care about the relationship anymore, just take your lost go talk to your family about your situation I know they will be there for you, if you show them that you are serious about you and your baby future. Go to court and try to get full custody for your child and try to get child support from him, if you do your research you will figure out that the government will also help, but you need to search. For you to stop the pain and struggle you need to leave, Go live your life. I know a lot of single mother that struggle at first and now they are well off with their life. It will be hard at first but if you just persevere and not give up you can do it.

The truest answer here.

Yes, you need to leave him.

Now are you strong enough to do that is the question. Never look back after making that decision.

You deserve a lot better...

I think it's time to take the baby and move on. It's obvious that he's immature and is probably still cheating.

A healthy relationship is based on open honest communication and he seems to offer none of that.

A cheater that is truly sorry would not get mad at you for checking up on him or calling him. A remorseful man would understand that he destroyed your confidence and trust and you have to gain it back.

Get out - you deserve better.

He cheats on you and now he gets mad at you for checking up on him? I thought you were the one who lost trust in him. He's the one who should be on his knees begging for your forgiveness.

Having a child complicates the relationship. Either way, you have to put your child as your priority. An unhealthy relationship with this man creates a very bad environment for your child.

If he can't repair the damage and regain your trust, then show him the door. You deserve better.

You don't need relationship advice, you need someone to guide you through the process of getting child support, after you kick him to the curb.

thanks everyone! Well I left him today and I swear this is my final decision! I'm done with the BS and you are right I do deserve better and so does my son! Thanks (=