My relationship with my boyfriend of almost a year is fine. I love him. We spend equal time talking and smooching. We talk straight-faced when one of us feels wronged by the other, we argue casually and kiss afterward. We've no problem with communication. It's what women magazines would call a working relationship And yet I feel a little stuffed with all this. Now, why is that?

Before him, it was always casual for me, I declined a few guys who wanted to be serious with me in the past. When we started going out, I thought it would be the same, but we just 'happened'. He is my first 'serious relationship'. We meet about twice a week but we mail and phone each other every day.

I get along with his friends, he gets along with my friends, and we are constantly surprised at how many mutual friends we've had even before we knew each other, that's from mixing in the same circles. We have compatible tastes, and he is very open to my hobbies that are different from his. No matter how I look at it, I don't see anything wrong that makes me feel like this. I don't want to let go of him, but I feel like I need a... I don't know... space?

I don't want to break up with him.

You don't have to, just bring some balance to the relationship by doing things apart sometimes. You just talk about it like you have been doing.

If its not broken then why try to fix it. Sounds like you found a guy that every women would wish to have, It could be cause your bored and you want something new Im guessing. You said

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We meet about twice a week but we mail and phone each other every day.

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sounds like your bored of him. Its one thing if you two see each other everyday, but you only see each other 2 times a week, and your asking for space, sounds to me that your not really In love. You really need to know what you want cause your playing with his emotion.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking. It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
I Corinthians 13:4-8

As you said this is your first serious relationship and sometimes it can be daunting when things go so well in the relationship, sometimes the more cynical of us feel that we are just setting ourselves up for a loss. But you need to roll with the punches and be honest, with him.

If you feel a bit suffocated in the relationship let him know that. Let him know that it has nothing to do with him, but you need a bit more space. If your relationship is as good as you say he should understand.

Best of Luck.