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  • Mar 19, 2010, 06:14 AM
    lady_gee
    Falling out of love
    I have a lot of reasons to hate my boyfriend for almost a year.. I'm battered girlfriend and even a victim of his verbal abuse... a jealous boyfriend.. inconsiderate and effortless... he never makes an effort to visit me in the house or even get close with my love ones... I love him very much but I'm afraid if I can stay longer in this relationship. What should I do? He is my first boyfriend...
  • Mar 19, 2010, 06:25 AM
    redhed35

    If you are been subject to abuse I would strongly advice to leave this relationship for your own mental,emotional and physical safety.

    Tell someone what is going on,ask for help,seek the support to help you leave the relationship.
  • Mar 19, 2010, 06:47 AM
    amicon

    You must leave him.
    He abuses you and you need to walk away.
    Seek help and support immediately.
  • Mar 19, 2010, 07:33 AM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    I have a lot of reasons to hate my boyfriend for almost a year.. I'm battered girlfriend and even a victim of his verbal abuse... a jealous boyfriend.. inconsiderate and effortless..
    Act like you hate him, and leave him alone.
    Quote:

    he never makes an effort to visit me in the house or even get close with my love ones.
    But he comes to kick your a$$!!
    Quote:

    I love him very much but I'm afraid
    Fear is not love, neither is abuse.

    Leave him before he kills you, or you have to kill him.
  • Mar 19, 2010, 08:17 AM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by lady_gee View Post
    i have a lot of reasons to hate my boyfriend for almost a year.. im battered girlfriend and even a victim of his verbal abuse... a jealous boyfriend.. inconsiderate and effortless... he never makes an effort to visit me in the house or even get close with my love ones... i love him very much but im afraid if i can stay longer in this relationship. what should i do? he is my first boyfriend...

    The part in bold says it all. How can you stay with someone you hate?

    1. He beats you. That's not love, that's hate. He doesn't love you, you're just a punching bag that keeps coming back for more.

    2. He verbally abuses you. He's a bully and he's found someone that puts up with it.

    Why would you want him to visit you, get close to your loved ones? What if he hurts them too?

    I have a question for you. If you had a friend who came to you and told you that her boyfriend is physically and verbally abusive, what would you tell her to do?

    You need to leave. I have enemies that treat me better then this person that you "love" does.
  • Mar 20, 2010, 10:00 AM
    Mr.Brown707

    WALK AWAY!
    Don't think twice. Don't question it.
    He does not love you if he treats you like that.
    Just walk away and don't look back.
    I guarantee you will be 100% better off.
  • Mar 20, 2010, 10:22 AM
    lea_09

    I think it is just a tough choice to make especially this is your first boyfriend and maybe possibly first love. But what he is doing is not love... I mean obviously you two may have had good times together, but the good out weighs the bad. He won't get close to your family because once they find out what he is doing to you they will try to hurt him (physically or go to the police). I mean I am sure he loves you, but not the way you love him. He has anger issues if he has to hurt you and you should suggest counseling and break it off till he gets better. There is something else going on than just you in his life.

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