Ok.. I have a lovely girlfriend that has gone away for a few months and in the time she has been gone I had realized that I had not put all of my efforts of loving her. But the only person who has contact with her is a old friend who continuously bothers me telling me she tell him she hates me and she's cheating and she'll never come back.. but it troubles me because he is a bastard who dares people to flirt to me and he has all the power to tell her lies(thru xbox live a.k.a can't buy one) so if anyone could help me its be awesome and I have tried taking out my anger at him just mnade everything worse.. I wish I could beat him up but our mothers know each other.. and I think that he likes her and might of given her wrong information.. and is attempting to destroy our relationship.

Hi Potato,

First, whoever the old friend is, I take it he is an oldfriend of your girlfriend? Well, why do you bother staying in contact with this guy. You can't get upset at the things he has to say if you don't hear him speak the words. Right?

Why can't you be in contact with your girlfriend? You need to put your trust in your girlfriend, not in someone that appears to mean you harm.

Turn a deaf ear to the guy who has nothing nice to say and sit down and write your girlfriend a very nice letter, just asking how she is and let her know some of the things you have been doing. You can write her a letter, can't you? Does she have a computer? Could you not send her an email?

I cannot do any of those things and you are right.. I will but he is a good friend of both of us but what worries me is communication.. I mean when we were falling for each other (when we were friends) it was like I could go to her for anything at anytime but before she left I felt like that feeling had gone.

When someone tried to break up a relationship that's a pretty low thing to do, but in saying that.. no one can be 'stolen' away from their bf/gf... they will not go if they don't want to. It seems to me that this old friend is just spreading things and you should take no notice. Contact your girlfriend and tell her your thinking about her, that's aways nice.
But don't, under any circumstances keep going on about how he's breaking you up.. that's just stupid and she will end up leaving you because of it, its harsh I know but its true
Just be positive
Hope I helped

Yeah.. but your saying I shouldn't tell her what's been going on between this old friend.. (didn't get it fully)

I agree all the way with Imation and I will also add that it's hard to understand how you can consider this guy a friend,when he did all you say he did.

It seems you have no way to contact your girlfriend, just to say hello? Why is that?

Well you can tell your girlfriend what the guy has been saying and doing if you reeeeeeeally want to.. but nothing will come from it and what's more she might think you don't trust her if you get worried about what some guy says...
I think that you should be focusing on getting rid of this guy and telling him that he is way out of line with the things he is saying and that you trust your girlfriend completely

Thanks a lot for the advice and because she has no internet usage and I cannot call her because her dad won't allow contact with any relationships according to her friends and to add I do not consider this guy my friend I just use old friend.. I don't know why though.. anyways thanks a lot again..

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Originally Posted by Potatoe

thanks alot for the advice and because she has no internet usage and I cannot call her because her dad won't allow contact with any relationships according to her friends and to add I do not consider this guy my friend I just use old friend..i don't know why though..anyways thanks alot again..

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