Why does my boyfriend masturbate but won't sleep with me
Hi all, Im a new user and could definitely use some insight, preferably from males. Here's a little background. I'm 28, he's 32 and we have been together (monogamously?) for exactly a year. I'm thin and attractive, he's slightly overweight and average looks. He's always been very sexual, at times too much for me to handle. He definitely has his "needs" and NEEDS them to be met whatever the circumstance. I've caught him IM-ing escorts off craigslist, he's cheated on ex gf's, he jerks off daily to porn, and once I owed him money and he let me 'pay it off' by having sex with him. (<-- really made me lose self esteem and think less of him). But in the end, I think he's a sex-addict and doesn't actually mean any harm by his impaired judgment.
So what does it mean when he suddenly never wants to have sex with me? We've done it 3 times in 3 weeks. Very sudden drastic change. He just got a new job working very long hours, and I understand the new pressures and lack of sleep can affect one's libido... but this is the man who jerks off to porn literally 10 minutes after we have sex. It used to make me feel so insecure that he feels he need to watch porn all the time, but now this is more insulting. He's not "too tired" to have sex with a bimbo off the screen, but too tired to make love to his girlfriend? I practically live with him, and wait around for him in sexy lingerie and lit candles.
The big topper was this Sunday. It was our 1 year anniversary and after a day which I planned for a month and spent all my vacaiton $ on, he just fell asleep. We had to cancel dinner due to a work call, which I totally understood. But I thought we might pick up where we left off after the meeting, but he just simply passed out. I just want him to want me. Am I asking for too much now that a year has passed? Now that he knows he as me for sure, am I not appealing to him? Please help me understand...
Sad and lonely