Why am I not allowed to date who I want?
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Ok so, I have a man that I really like. We have known each other a little more then a year. My mom has always told me that she would let me group date at 17, well 17 came around and I wasn't allowed to group date, then she said at 18 I could date, 18 came around and I still wasn't allowed to date. At 19 I wanted to date but I was in the process of moving, so I moved and met someone in my new hometown. We have known each other for a year. I care very deeply for him and him for me. My mom has met him and he has come over for dinner about 4 times. My mom was cool with him until she found out his age, he was 29 turning 30. I am now 20 and still not allowed to date (he is 30 now). My mom slowly went from letting me hang out with him and talking to him to I am not allowed to talk or see him. Her reasons of not liking him is: age, eyes are to blue and pupils are to small (she thinks he does drugs, he doesn't and he has said that he is willing to take a drug test to prove it), tattoo (he has a Nor Cal tattoo on his arm because he was born in northern CA, not because he is in a gang). When we first met he told me straight off everything, he didn't want to hide anything because he wants someone to love him for who he is, flaws and all. He has a daughter who is 12 years old, this does not bother me because I am use to kids, my parents and all my relatives have big families. I didn't think age would be a factor because my mom is 6 years older then my dad and my grandparents are 11 years apart, now I do believe that 30 is still pushing it a bit but I am happy. But I would rather be dating someone who is mature and has said that he has been through all the crud of drugs and alcohol and has decided that both are a waste of time and is on his way to greatness. He has a job, and is in the process of purchasing a house of his own. I love him but I also love my mom, my mom will never like him. So, do I try to find out if he is truly the one for me and love him and possibly get married someday to him and disappoint my mom? Or, Do I leave him for good like my mom wants and make her happy and find someone else?
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I do still live with my mom because I am not allowed to get a job just yet. I am hoping to get a job very soon after my extern, I will then continue my education but save money to buy my own car and place to live. Me and mom mom have made a deal that she will help me prepare myself for life and I will be able to move out at 23. I respect her and take her advice, I do listen to her advice for dating but I don't like it when she tries to say what kind of man I should date. She always hints on someone rich, which is not exactly what I'm looking for, yes that would be nice but not realistic. I am not a settler, I am just trying to have a life and have perhaps many trials and errors on my own, and learn myself, the best and worst of people. I am an american as is my mom (my moms a complete white girl, Hehe) so there is no religious family tradition or anything like that.