My ex and I have been dating for 2 yrs and our relationship was going fine. We did the long distance thing for about 1 and 1/2 and then I moved to be closer to him. Prior to my move I noted that he was talking to girls online and even told one that he had a crush on them. When I found out, He begged me to forgive him that I was away and he was just talking. I forgave him and I moved here. However I think I was still having a lot of pain from what he had done. We were doing great for a while after a great make up vacation. We started fighting again over weight issues etc and I noted that he was flirting with another girl online and his ex. He told me it was because every time we talked lately we were always fighting. We took some time apart and then made up for a few weeks. He however had not stopped talking to his ex and that girl. I don't know if he slept with either of them but I just couldn't take it the way he was acting. Was I wrong for breaking up with him over that. I think flirting and asking your ex to come over for night cap is unacceptable... We haven't talked in 2 months- he apologized a month later after our break up but I was too upset to care or listen. I saw pics of the 2 of them at a mutual party. I don't know if he got back with his ex. I despite all that drama, I want hime back. At least I want to know if he loves her more... he hasn't made an attempt to contact me but he wrote a lot of things on his web pages regarding forgiveness if you truly loves someone.. Should I call him first to talk?

My gosh, how many times does he have to do the same thing before you get it? How many chances does he get to go behind your back with other females?

Action speak louder than words and his have gotten louder over time, and are screaming at you, and its really time for you to listen. He is a liar and a cheat, and your downright crazy for wanting that back in your life again.

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At least I want to know if he loves her more... he hasn't made an attempt to contact me but he wrote a lot of things on his web pages regarding forgiveness if you truly loves someone.. Should I call him first to talk?

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No, you leave him alone. Taking him back yet again, is only asking for more of the same.

If you read what you typed up there, how can you not see all the obvious red flags?

Run away, and stay away. This guy isn't going to change.

You know the saying fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me, in your case it sounds like you forgave him more then enough so your just being stupid, I'm not trying to sound like a jerk but love makes us do stupid things. If he keeps doing what his been doing what makes you think he will change. IF he really did love you his eyes would only be for you, and no one else seem to matter but just the 2 of you. HE doesn't love you but his taking advantage of you. His not a man his acting like a little child and you don't need that in your life.

Why set yourself up for more heartbreak?

Thank your lucky stars its over and leave him to his cheating,lying ways.

You just want him because you see him on his Facebook or whatever!You don't need to be friend with him on Facebook or to lurk on whatever concerns him!
You need to go NO Contact which also means stop trying by all means to know if he's over you.Just think of you and believe me it will not take long until he moves on cause he was always trying with other girls so now that he's single I think he's living his life.
He's obviously not worth it.