I made up this profile on myspace as another person. So far I been talking to my boyfriend on it, and he does't know its me. He's been telling her how she beautiful, and stuff like that. And a couple of weeks ago I saw where he has left this girl comments about being beautiful and how he needs to move up there. But I think he was just playing, well I asked him about it , all he said was "thats what you get for being noisey". And then changed the subject... What should I do? I love him with all my heart, how do I know if he's cheating? :mad:

As far as I'm concerned, He IS cheating. Cannot be trusted.

It seems like you were setting him up. Is that really fair? Either way it should be discussed more.

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Originally Posted by Depressed in MO

As far as I'm concerned, He IS cheating. Cannot be trusted.

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Thanks. I just sent him a message saying "we should meet up sometime" and Imma see what he says. But thanks for the advice

And no it isn't fair, but I just want to make sure that he's not messing around on me

Well, I see what he did as cheating, so you cannot trust him. But I also see what you did as manipulative, so he cannot trust you.

I don't mean to sound harsh, but what you did was not in any way fair to him, nor was he fair to you. Relationships are based on trust, and it appears you both broke the trust in this relationship.

Players. Its funny how our games are okay but theirs never are... just a perspective to consider. :rolleyes:

Sounds like you two are perfectly matched. Keep on like this and you can have a long and perfectly miserable life together.

When in dought through him out. Even if he was just playin' he made you question him. And with changing the subject so fast he felt guilty and most def not comfortable about what he had done. The most important thing for you and him is to be happy. With or without each other. You companion is supposed to bring out the best you, not make you want to make fake profile to see what he would or would not do.

What made you suspect that he was cheating in the first place? You may have had good reason to believe that he was but "setting a trap" on MySpace was not the way to go about investigating the matter. I sort of have to agree with him, that yes, that's what you get for being nosey. If you really had solid, concrete evidence that he was cheating, then confronting him personally would have been the way to do it. If you're just being paranoid, then you've pretty much killed your chances for establishing any further trust between the two of you. Either way, I think this relationship's spent. In the future, if you feel you need to confront someone, then confront them upfront and honestly, don't try to trap them ; that's the coward's way.

Crap... bottom line, relationships are built on trust... if you don't trust him, why bother? And about him quick... he should be honest, if he had nothing to hide, he should just say so. Sounds like an idiot to me. Why don't you find a guy you trust and one you don't have to sneak around to see if he is honest. There still are good guys out there, you just have to take time and look hard.