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Met a girl who is friends with one of my good buddies a couple weekends ago. We became Facebook friends and then started to talk a lot. She got my number and she will randomly text me about things she did that day, or will ask me what I'm doing. She will try and talk to me for a long time online and I usually end the conversations. She told my friend that we had a lot in common but not to tell me. I kind of like her but I don't want to waste my time with someone who wants to be just friends. Does this sound like she likes me? I'm just confused because she will go out of her way to talk to me, but I just don't want to waste my time. Any help please.

She may be,but the only way to find out is to actually ask her,as she is the only one who knows.

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Originally Posted by amicon

She may be,but the only way to find out is to actually ask her,as she is the only one who knows.

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I know, but I really don't want to jump the gun and make her get cold feet.

Sounds like she likes you to me... she's goes out of her way to talk to you a lot of the time, even when you end the conversations, so something's got to give right?

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Originally Posted by master88

Does this sound like she likes me? I'm just confused because she will go out of her way to talk to me, but I just don't wanna waste my time.

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She might not even have romantic feelings for you yet, but it sounds like she's interested in getting to know you better.

There's no guarantee that she will develop romantic feelings for you, but she might if you got to know each other better. There's always a risk that she might loose interest after you got to know each other better.

If you feel like getting to know a person is a waste of time, you might as well give up on all girls now. Again, there's no guarantee a girl will like you without getting to know you. It takes time.

What makes you think just because you got burned before, that what you want will be handed to you on a silver platter, without you investing time and work into it? That's so unreasonable, and there are no guarantees in life.

If your afraid of the risks, then your not ready for the rewards. You don't sound ready at all.

Too bad, you might have enjoyed yourself some.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

What makes you think just because you got burned before, that what you want will be handed to you on a silver platter, without you investing time and work into it? Thats so unreasonable, and there are no guarantees in life.

If your afraid of the risks, then your not ready for the rewards. You don't sound ready at all.

Too bad, you might have enjoyed yourself some.

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I got past my fear today and asked her to go out on a date with me this week. She said yes, I'm going to try and take it slow and see how it progresses.

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I've been talking to this chick for about 2 months. She lives a couple hours away from me. We talk almost every night and last weekend I went to see her around her town, and things went well. I invited her to come as my date to a party last Thursday and she came. My friend who knows her from home was telling me that she would stay the weekend if I asked her so I did and she did. It was springfest weekend at our school and everything was going good. We had sex for the first time. This morning though she seemed kind of weird and left pretty early.

Now here's where its getting weird. On Friday night my ex girlfriend was standing in front of the bathroom and she sniped me out. I literally haven't talked to her in months but she tried to start talking to me. After about a min I told her I had to go and walked away from her.

Today I got a text from the girl who stayed the weekend that she was feeling kind of weird about the weekend and that she kind of regrets hooking up. I was like , and asked her what was wrong. She said it was just too overwhelming and that she was afraid things were getting too serious. My mind was boggled, because a week before her best friend cornered me when I was visiting her and asked if I would date her. I told her that if things keep going the way they are I would. She then sent me a text that got me really pissed off. She said "I'm sorry I just felt like you invited me up there to make you ex jealous."

What do I do? I hate my ex with a passion and couldn't give a crap about her.

I would send a heartfelt apology to her, explaining that it was not your intention at all. Please don't text it though, I would never take an apology via a text very seriously. Don't beg her, simply let her know the facts. DID YOU know that your ex might possibly be there? If this crossed your mind at all you need to be honest with her about it. If your ex really is one of those crazy-stalker types, you need to be honest with this new girl that the ex may try to interfere. She deserves to know that a real relationship with you might bring problems for her from your ex. This is probably what she is dealing with at the moment.

Put yourself in her shoes, she meets this guy and things are going great. Finally, the big hook up night, which is always a nervous and exciting time. Afterward, some girl she doesn't even know begins causing problems for her. Before the hook up there were no problems, so in conclusion she believes that a serious relationship with you may entail more problems from crazy ex. This wold be enough to scare anyone away if they had no warning about it.

So I would apologize to her and to keep the crazy one away, stay away from that area. If she continues to follow you, make sure you get it through everyones' heads that you want nothing to do with her. Consider PFA if it becomes a real problem.

Unfortunately, it looks like you rushed the sex part. You should stick to getting to know each other's personalities before doing something so intimate.

Too much too fast, so you crash and burn.

I wouldn't give up on her so easily if you really like her. Be honest with her with. I find writing an email is useful, because you can lay it all out without your instincts getting in the way. In other words, you wouldn't blurt out something that you'll regret later. In an email, you can word things the way you want.

Be honest about your situation with your ex. It will be up to the girl if she believes you or not. You won't be able to force her to believe you, but at least you can do your part in being honest.

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I've put it a lot of time because I really feel a connection with this girl. Me and her have a lot in common. Even after getting crap from my guyfriends for being a "" with her I've tried to be as good as possible. I'm just mad my ex had to interfere for no reason.

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. Even after getting crap from my guyfriends for being a "" with her I've tried to be as good as possible.

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How were you being an A## with her? Maybe her acting strange has more to do with that then it does with the interference of your ex. If she feels you have treated her badly, you are going to have an uphill climb to gain her trust. Why did your friends think you were treating her badly? Maybe she used the ex as an excuse to draw away from you because she did not like how you were treating her. Sorry, don't mean to offend, I'm just trying to figure out what was meant by that.

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Originally Posted by alesha8781

How were you being an A## with her? Maybe her acting strange has more to do with that then it does with the interference of your ex. If she feels you have treated her badly, you are going to have an uphill climb to gain her trust. Why did your friends think you were treating her badly? Maybe she used the ex as an excuse to draw away from you because she did not like how you were treating her. Sorry, don't mean to offend, I'm just trying to figure out what was meant by that.

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Sorry the filter on here made it sound different. I meant they were making fun of me for being a softy.

Oh, I understand. Possibly you were being too soft with her? My fiancée irritates me sometimes because he can be very sensitive and not that it's a bad thing but sometimes he is so sensitive that I feel smothered by him. Not all girls like crazy sensitive guys.

Her problem might also be that she has heard about your past and when she spent time with you, you were completely different than what she heard. She may be translating this as you were being fake with her.

Like I said, she is probably just scared and the sex scared her more. Tell her you enjoyed it but you would like to take it slow and get to know each other better. And make sure she knows that you will do all in your power to keep the crazy ex away.
Understand that your past history with girls combined with her experience with you and your ex may have driven her away for good...