Girlfriend told me she needs space and moved out
Hi, I've been with my girlfriend for just about 3 years now, I moved in with her and her mom as my parents left the country, we were just about getting into a relationship when I moved in, after 2 years being brilliant together, never arguing, enjoying being with each other and being in love we decided to buy a flat together.
My girlfriend left her job in the last month because she had issues with a girl she was working for, and came home crying nearly every week saying that she felt as though she was being bullied mentally and couldn't cope with it.
I told her I would support her with any decisions she makes but I did tell her that I would not be able to handle paying mortgage and bills on my own.
Anyway when she gets upset she would never come to me to talk about work or issues and would go to her mums.
This obviously made me feel awkward and didn't want to bring it up as I didn't want to argue or anything and thought she needed motherly love maybe?
So today out of the blue she told me she needed space and wants to live with her mom for the next couple of weeks
I asked her why she felt as though she couldn't be with me and she said that she didn't feel as though we are as close as what we were and felt more like friends.
I must admit I could be supporting her more than what I could and I have been stressed out with her finding a job and managing to pay the bills but would never have thought she was about to dump me out of the blue.
Anyway my girlfriend is on medication for anxiety and has only recently gone back on it with her job, does she need more support? How do I offer it to her, I've told her loads before I'm here for her and when she needs to talk to me she can
I'm just so confused as what to do.
She's been getting loads of interviews so its not as though it will take her long to find a job and I have been reasuring her.
I'm not stupid and know a bit about relationships, but I am very confused as I have been with her for nearly 4 years, lived to gether for 3 years and never has it come to this or even a full blown argument. I love her to bits, and always thought to myself I didn't know what I would do without her, and I know she feels the same.
Could it be her anxiety?
She's been in a long relationship before me ( 5 years ) lived together , and she dumped her ex as well.
Is this HONESTLY her and not ME? ( not that she's said that )
Grrrrrrrrrrr I'm so confused and upset.