The issue is I've been chasing women almost all my life and am now 35 yrs and extremely successful with these women (They hardly turn me down). I don't know why. Because of this, I find it very difficult to stick to one woman and I never love any of them.

As cliché as this sounds, you just haven't found the right one to settle with.

You can't force yourself to settle with someone. It has to happen naturally.

Try sticking with one for more than a few hours. She's out there somewhere. I just hope you'll know it when you do find the right one.

I presume you have a string of women that follow you home, have sex, and then that's it? Do they at least get lunch?

While using women for the purpose of sex only seems to be about as equal as women using men for sex, you have to stop and ask yourself, why do these relationships always end up the same way.

It sounds like you have developed some sort of formula, and you're now finding out that it leaves you empty, and alone.

You have to think past the conquest, and think more about the quality of a person, their characteristics and personalities, can they talk in complete sentences, and are they interesting and fun to be with. All of this before jumping in the sack.

Just my opinion, but I think you've had enough experience and you certainly have enough know-how to attract women, is it not time to put a little more effort in?

See if you can't think outside the bed... er, box... and think friendship and good old fashioned courting- yes, woo the girl man!

Not every woman is like the ones you have so far been satisfied with. Relationships are a lot more work.

Try raising your own expectations of what a relationship means (more than a night!), and raise your expectations as to what type of woman might be worth a little personal investment in.

They are out there.

There's a few tips I can give; Find a nice woman, settle down. You're not getting any younger. If woman throw really themselves at you and you are feeling used in all those one night stands try the following.

Don't bathe for a week. (this is gross, but it may work)

Don't brush you're teeth and eat a hamburger, lots of onion!

Don't wear deodorant or after shave. Use Lysol instead.

That should end your women problems and give you time to concentrate on finding the right one! Good Luck You Charmer You. :):)

It's hard to know whether you feel compelled to go through lots of women (can't help it) or if you are going through lots of women trying, in vain, to find the right one.

You should be able to take a woman out on several dates before considering having sex with her to see if she has that long term potential. If you can't help yourself, you should get some counseling to learn why you behave that way and get some help changing it.

If this is your strategy for finding the right woman, instead of picking women up when you first meet them, just get their number, call them later and set up a date. Treat them like ladies instead of conquests. Several dates with no sex - stop at a kiss. Only if you think they are a serious potential wife should you take things any further.

Good luck!

Good advice!

I don't actually think that it's about finding the right WOMAN. It's about finding the right PERSON.

Whilst you continue to discriminate in your mind between women and people, and you continue to 'chase' women, you'll never connect with them as human beings.

Connecting with someone and forming a lasting relationship with them is one of the most satisfying things in our lives. If we allow it.

Sounds to me like you've focused on the chase to give you your thrills, so once you've 'captured' what you want, you move on.

Chasing women and then moving on, I assume, doesn't give you the opportunity or time to get to know them as people, or form attachments.

So, slow down. Look at women with different eyes (look at different women) - there are lots of wonderful people out there. Learn to accept that we're all complex and flawed, as well as loving and generous.

Corny as this may sound, you need to open your heart to love as well as pain - it sounds as if your heart has been closed to both up until now.

Thank you guys. You've been very helpful. I appreciate it a lot.

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Thank you guys. You've been very helpful. I appreciate it a lot.

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Be careful! Concentrate on ONE woman. :)

Sounds like you've been a bit of a player. You say women hardly ever turn you down, thing is you've probably developed a nose for which women to approach to maximise your success. Sadly these women have failed to give you any lasting interest.

So either, you haven't stuck around long enough to give them a chance.

Or, you're simply chasing the wrong women. Believe me, there are plenty of women out there who wouldn't jump between your sheets, simply because they would recognise a player and not be satisfied with being chased just for sex.

Start taking an interest in some of the women who say no, maybe they will have more to interest you, and maybe when you have to work to get to know them you will find them worth spending more time with.

I'm not knocking you, hope it doesn't sound that way. A sexually confident man can be very alluring and a lot of fun, but ultimately a more thoughtful approach can lead to lasting happiness.

Very good luck to you.

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Sounds like you've been a bit of a player. You say women hardly ever turn you down, thing is you've probably developed a nose for which women to approach to maximise your success. Sadly these women have failed to give you any lasting interest.

So either, you haven't stuck around long enough to give them a chance.

Or, you're simply chasing the wrong women. Believe me, there are plenty of women out there who wouldn't jump between your sheets, simply because they would recognise a player and not be satisfied with being chased just for sex.

Start taking an interest in some of the women who say no, maybe they will have more to interest you, and maybe when you have to work to get to know them you will find them worth spending more time with.

I'm not knocking you, hope it doesn't sound that way. A sexually confident man can be very alluring and a lot of fun, but ultimately a more thoughtful approach can lead to lasting happiness.

Very good luck to you.

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Are you back to your old tricks? Come on you seem to be a nice guy. Wait for the right girl:)