My sister is a real pain. We are sort of close and sometimes good friends. There is on problem she gets in fights with me and my other sister for NO reason. I really need help. She is driving me inseane. One minute we are talking the next she bolws a fuse and she is a pain. What should I do? I think if I do nothing we may lose our friendship and I do not want to lose my sister. Please

How old are all of you?

My sister and I are the same way. We always have been. When she blows up at you, tell her you'll talk to her when she's not yelling. Then walk away.

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So, she's two years older. A lot of sibling fights are derived from jealousy. Boyfriends-jobs-school-clothes. If you have a lot to maker her jealous about perhaps share (not the boyfriend). Could this be the case?

If she's a teenager there's a good chance it's hormonal. If you're older you may have done some of the same things and if you're younger you'll probably go through it soon, too.

For some reason teenagers, both girls and boys, go through a time when things are just very annoying to them and most annoying of all are other family members. The more closely you share space or time, the more annoying she will find you to be! The crazy part is that you can be perfectly fine but she'll think you're so annoying, she'll respond with terrific rudeness.

The best fix for this is time - this phase does end. In the meantime, give her as much space and privacy as you can, ignore things as much as you can also. If she hurts your feelings or is insulting though, you can certainly defend yourself by calmly just correcting her such as, "that was a very hurtful thing to say", or "that wasn't very nice" or, "I don't think I've ever said anything that nasty about you". On the other hand, don't be obnoxious back to her - that just escalates things. And of course, your parents can step in, too - if she's not fit to be courteous around the family, perhaps they can send her to her room so you can have some peace!

Giving space is a good idea. OP already stated their ages and age differences.

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Originally Posted by ChihuahuaMomma

Giving space is a good idea. OP already stated their ages and age differences.

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I think that post was edited or deleted.

Weird, op's post stating age is gone...

She is probably my best friend but I will do or say something stupid and she gets mad (that's her opinion).

Sounds like typical sibling stuff to me. You'll both grow out of it. Just be sure not to hold the way she's acting against her later.