Is it normal to feel like you don't want your baby? Sometimes I feel like we don't have a bond with him.. I feel like I should give him up for adoption. I feel as if I shouldn't love him because of the way he was conceived. I know everyone's thinking well you should have kept your legs closed and this is right. Sex comes with consequences. I I ruined my life and threw all my opportunities out the window. I feel so ungrateful because I have the abilitly to give birth and I didn't even have to work at it or even fully appreciate it. I wish I could brag about my pregnancy but I cant. And I know there are women who would love to have a baby but can't conceive. I hate myself for feeling this way I want my baby to feel welcome into this world but then I feel stupid because I wasn't married and because of my age and because of the fact that I'm still in school. I'm cryying as I write this because I know I can't tell this to anyone with out them thinking I'm crazy, evil, or stupid for being embarrassed by this pregnancy.

Hi Pink, don't be discouraged by the way you feel, sounds like you are suffering from a condition called postpartum depression and you are not alone in the feelings you are experiencing. There is help to make you feel normal again. Below is a website that explains this condition and I hope you will follow up with your doctor regarding this.

www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/postpartumdepression

If you can't access my url, please put the search words in to access this information within the website.

Ms tick

Hey, I was a young single mom too. It's not un common that girls in your age group feel this way after having a baby. But you need to talk to your doctor about this. Adoption still isn't out of the question. You can't be grudge your babay because of the mistakes you made. So you have to step up to the plate and take responsibilities. That can mean taking care of this baby by yourself and with the support of your family, or by giving him to someone who will care properly for him. I am not saying you are a bad person, but you are in a bad situation. And before you make any drastic decisions talk to your doctor.
I don't know where you are but check out this website.


Mom: Managing Our Mood, Part of The Family Help Program - Full Text View - ClinicalTrials.gov

Im not alone in this my boyfriend and I got married last weekend. Pregnant bride.. painfully embarrassing I never imagined getting married like that. My now husband wants this baby. Idk what to do

LIsten hun, there is NOTHING embaressing about giving life!
How old are you? I know you have your husband, but you need to talk to professionals who will help you understand these feelings. It could really be that you have post partum depression, or you just may truly not be ready for a baby. Either way, it's your baby who is going to end up suffering if you don't make the right choice. Please contact a doctor or a counseler, someone who can help you figure out what you are going through. You keep referring to your son as "this baby", I am not trying to be rude, but please think of this child who did not ask to be born. I saw your other posts. You sound completley torn. From your posts it sounds like to me you have already made your decision. Please speak with a professional.

Im 18 years old. I live and go to 2 hrs away from home. I have my roommates but I feel lonely. I live in a dorm. Im being so selfish in only thinking how I feel your right I know this baby didn't ask to be born. Im a terrible person. Im embarrassed by this pregnancy. I just wish I could have done things the right way. I realize now its not about me. I justcant believe I was the stupid girl who got pregnant who every one looks down upon, I knew better my mom talked to me growing up. But I made a mistake. It hurts.

Hey that's all right, everyone makes mistakes. Now you just have to do right. You are not a terrible person. In my eyes you are admirable. I mean come on it's not like you are 15 and still in high school. IT sounds like you are still trying to better yourself. And that's a good thing for a baby! I bet no one is looking down on you. And who cares if they are. The only people that matter right now are you, your baby and your new hubby. You are NOT a terrible person. And it's not too late to make things right. You need to speak to your doctor. They can give you all the options you are looking for. Look deep down and you will know what is right. But first you need to figure out if this is a horomone imbalance, or your true feelings. If it's an imbalance, things will only get worse until something terrible happens. YOu need to speak with our doctor. I wasn't much older then you when I got pregnant. I was embaressed too. But, especially in front of my father. YOur not the only one who feels like this. I am off work for the day, but I am on my way home and I will be back on line if you still want to chat. Why don't you bounce some ideas off on me. Like how you feel now, if you decided on adoption, how you would feel then, what exactly you are embaressed about, anything you want to discuss. But I can't stress enuogh Pink, you need to talk to your doctor. Make an appointment right now!

Thank you very much. I'm in the middle of somehomework but I will write back and let you know how I feel. Thanks again for listening and giving me your time.

Consider that lovely new baby an extension of yourself, Pink. Now you have someone who will always look up to you and love you unconditionally, as you will love that baby too.

Tick

Yup, and it's absolutely the best feeling ever!

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Yup, **laughing** isn't it though ! My son is 27 and is still the best thing that ever happened to me. What you give, you receive back l0 fold.

Weepy tick

I hope the OP comes back. She really is in a tough place. It must be so scary for her.

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She may be scared at first about the postpartum depression, but that is exactly what it is. She will sleep on it and realize we are here for her, AB.

Sure tick

I hope so Tick!

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Im not alone in this my boyfriend and i got married last weekend. Pregnant bride.. painfully embarrassing i never imagined getting married like that. My now husband wants this baby. Idk what to do

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I'm confused. How can it be postpartum depression if she hasn't had the baby yet?

Well I am pretty sure she said she had a baby boy.

If you read the original post it says that she is embaressed about how he was conceived, and how she doesn't have a bond with him yet.

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Those quotes tell me that she is still pregnant.

Oh, well I guess we read it wrong. Sorry. Kind of confusing the way I read it.

God has has gifted a women with the ability to give birth!it is sometihing you should be proud of
From what I understand from your posts is that you got married with your BF and that your family is with you well that's what is IMP you should not be bothered about what people say or think because the only people matter are the close ones who are there supporting you
Enjoy this period in life as there colud not be any feeling as good as this one in life just think of your baby growing up within you and be happy