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  • Mar 8, 2010, 09:57 AM
    readyforsomethingtohappen
    Something missing in my relationship
    I have been in a relationship almost 2 years, actually our 2 year anniversary is in 2 days. Lately I have been feeling like there is something missing in our relationship. I recently mentioned it to him but He said he does not feel it. I can't shake this feeling and I don't know if its just me or if it has something to do with him. I love him! I sometimes feel like he is holding back. He has been married twice before and I have been married once. He said he is afraid of ending up again in another divorce. He was in a 2 year relationship with another women, a year into his relationship he asked this women to marry him, they had joint checking accounts, shortly after that she said because of health issues she could not sleep with him, so the last year of their relationship he slept on the couch. He left her in December. We met in February and things were happening so quickly then they stopped... I really thought we would be engaged by now or even talked about our future. He has not talked about our future, other then I can see myself having a future with you. When I mentioned how I felt about him and how I don't want to be in a relationship with someone for 6 years before I get married, he said your right we need to talk about our future, but nothings been said since. Maybe its me! Help!
  • Mar 8, 2010, 12:49 PM
    I wish

    If you think that something is missing, then chances are, you're right. I would say trust your instincts.

    If you're not getting what you want in a relationship, if the relationship doesn't feel natural, then find happiness elsewhere.

    No need to force the issue.
  • Mar 8, 2010, 12:53 PM
    lionesslovelife
    Hi.I think that guy you are with has been burnt twice and maybe that's why he is taking time to make things happen between two of u.I think you should not raise the topic of marriage again because taking it fast may ruin a good relationship.be patient and drop subtle hints,and give him a further grace period of 6 months to 1 year.and raise the topic once again at that time.this will make him realize that you are not putting any pressure on him.
  • Mar 8, 2010, 01:20 PM
    Homegirl 50

    If marriage is what you want talk to him about it, but be aware that he may not want that. So you may need to decide whether to hang in there or walk away.

    I wish you well
  • Mar 8, 2010, 02:01 PM
    Devorameira

    It seems you and your boyfriend aren't on the same page. Go find a man who is excited about being with you for the rest of his life, a man you love and who loves you in return. It doesn't make sense to stay with a guy who doesn't want to marry you more than anything else. He sounds like a real dud. :(

    When you find the right person, it should be a time of great joy, not a time of questioning if there's something missing.
  • Mar 9, 2010, 07:18 AM
    talaniman

    Talk to him in a calm relaxed way, why not? If it's a concern, express it. After only a few years with a twice divorced guy though, expect hesitation at going for a third strike, which in my book is understandable.

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